I honestly believe daygame is the most effective way to meet women.

The only major obstacle is approach anxiety and there are plenty of posts addressing how to overcome that.

This is how run my daygame - condensed down to 7 steps.

Step 1. Statement of empathy

“I know this is a bit random, but”
“This might seem unorthodox, but”

This shows you have the emotional awareness to realise she might feel a bit uneasy about talking to some random guy on the street, and that you’re not some sociopath. Honestly, you’re not.

It also gives her scattered female brain some time to tune in before you get to the point — and that point is…

Step 2. Statement of intent

“I noticed you look really good today.”
“You look very nice, so I wanted to say hi”

The argument about opening direct or indirect has bollocked on for years.

The main argument for opening direct is that there’s no confusion as to why you’re there. Ever had someone be randomly nice to you on the street without them saying what they want. It makes you suspicious, confused, on your guard and generally weirded out, no matter how cool the person may seem.

Step 3. Assumptions

“You look like some sort of sports athlete training for the Olympics.”
“I assume you’re on a lunch break from your high-end corporate job.”
“It looks like you’re trying to do all your Christmas shopping in one day.”

Use her appearance to do a cold read about the type of person who she is.

This is a good opportunity to exaggerate what you see, using humour to break the tension. This could spark curiosity, asking why you thought that about her — or at least give her the opportunity to contribute to the conversation by correcting you.

It’s also a good opportunity to tell her what you liked about her appearance, and why you chose her over every other girl.

“I just saw you in that summer dress, and I thought to myself she has to be here for London Fashion Week.”
It’s just endlessly better than asking her a question, and expecting her to lead the conversation with a lengthy after 30 seconds of knowing you.

Hopefully, you get her contributing to the conversation with the first assumption. (the hook point).

If not, stack those assumptions until something hooks. Perhaps throwing another statement of empathy or a false time constraint (“I have to leave in like 5 minutes”) if she still looks uncomfortable.

4. Screening for logistics

“What are your plans for the next 10 minutes?”

It’s important to know this as soon as possible.

Is her friend going to swoop in within seconds? Is she waiting for an Uber right now? Is she derping around not really knowing what to do with herself?

If it’s the former, you know you need to exchange contact details quickly.

If it’s the latter, you can push for the instant-date quickly.

5. Investment (something that makes her interested in you)

Some funny/interesting story about that helps her get to know you.

Ideally, it’s linked to something she said, but it could just as easily be something that’s on the top of your mind.

Throw in some sly DHVs (demonstrations of high value) if you like.

Here, I want to add the main message that body language, self amusement and a great vibe count for A LOT. Way more than the content you’re throwing at her here.

Anyway, the point here is that she has to realise you’re cool before going any further into the interaction.

DON’T make the hugely common mistake of asking screening questions or trying to close, because she’s not talking much and it’s awkward. Instead, just carry on with the stories about you until she opens up.

6. Comfort-building

Getting to know her

Once she’s opened up, I’d push for the instant-date.

Either way, once she seems impressed enough with you, it’s time for you to dial down your ‘game’ and get to know her.

Now, it’s OK to ask questions.

I like to ask questions, which screen whether we’d be a good match (giving her the opportunity to qualify herself. Girls love to chase. If you don’t want a flake, it’s good to give the impression you’re not 100% sold on her yet)

The more she can open up about herself, the more comfortable she’ll feel around you. This creates a ‘connection’ and she’ll be more open to meeting you again.

The key point here though, is to calm down and show her you can be a normal dude, not just this wacky cold-approach game guy.

Of course, you can (and should) throw in the occasional ‘game’ moves such as ‘teasing, emotional spikes, disqualifier, push-pull etc).

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7. Close

“You seem cool. Let’s keep in touch. Do you have Instagram?”

If you’re swapping contact details, social media is best (that’s a topic for another thread though)

The strongest closes are those where you pitch a time, place and event to meet again WHILE YOU’RE TOGETHER.

That way you need to go through all the BS back-and-forth when you’re texting her.

My ‘text game’ is just confirming the plans we already arranged — and her saying yes. Simple.

Even if it’s just a five-minute number close where you didn’t have the time to learn much about each other, you should still throw out an idea of where you’d like to take her. Saves so much time during the ‘text game’.

I should add the possibility of the same-day lay. Screen for this. Depends on her logistics. Not many chicks you meet have nothing to do ALL DAY, but I managed this a couple of times and it is MAGIC.

Any questions, ask them in the comments!

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