Quick- The first test of the day: She wants a rain check on our first date. How do I avoid coming off too beta but still amiable?

the_number_2 · 2015-04-06T20:51:47+00:00

"That's fine, I'll be in touch soon and we'll see if we can't work something out then."

Then, go out and do something fun, so if she asks she'll see you had no issues filling your time with something entertaining. Try her back in a few days, ask when she's free again, go from there.

But, just to let you know, if she hasn't offered another time / day already, she may not be interested anymore.

fortifiedoranges · 2015-04-06T21:00:45+00:00

"K" always reeks of anger when coming across texts. If she texted you for a rain check she's not interested. If she called you and apologized profusely she might actually be upset that she had to cancel. Just text her "no worries" or something like that because anything is trying too hard. Don't say "maybe next time" or any crap about future plans. You have more interesting shit going on in your life than someone who would take a rain check on a Monday night. This isn't even a shit test, she's not into you. Delete her number and move on.

If by some chance she calls you and asks to hang out, you can tell her you deleted her number and have her prove that's she's not wasting your time. When someone doesn't respect you, they will waste your time.

balalasaurus · 2015-04-06T21:44:01+00:00

Ok. Then delete the number. Plenty more fish in the sea.

[deleted] · 2015-04-06T23:06:51+00:00

Give her the benefit of the doubt once.

"Ok. Let's work something out another day."

Radio silence for a few days to a week, and then ask her out again.

If she seem flaky and won't commit again just drop her and move on.

Friggen_throwaway · 2015-04-07T01:06:24+00:00

Easy, respond with, "actually that works out. A friend asked me to _____ and now I can."

Shows you aren't butthurt. Shows you got other stuff going on. Let's her hamster on figuring out your other plans and who it might be with. Doesn't burn the bridge and let's the conversation open about another time that might work.

yumyumgivemesome · 2015-04-06T21:19:50+00:00

If she flaked via text, don't respond so quickly. I like the "k" or "np" responses. I know the curtness of it increases the likelihood that she perceives that you are disappointed or upset. I don't think that's a bad thing. There is nothing beta about being upset with somebody who flaked on plans that she committed to with you. The beta puts on a "nice guy" appearance even when the girl treats him like shit. Flaking doesn't deserve a tongue-lashing, but there's no reason you have to hide the fact that you think she fucked up a little bit.

ECoast_Man · 2015-04-06T22:24:19+00:00

'No prob'

giffengoods · 2015-04-07T00:10:09+00:00

"No worries!"

NiftyDolphin · 2015-04-07T14:18:01+00:00

"Gay"

crazytrpr · 2015-04-07T16:18:19+00:00

No Worries or no problem. Don't contact her back. She ain't that into you. Don't get mad just move on. Make your self scarce

Real8inchDong · 2015-04-07T19:22:49+00:00

Why do all you fags say no contact for everything? If you manage to accomplish setting up with an 8 or better anyone with experience knows that the better looking the girl, the more likely she is to flake and play games.

Play it cool, just text her something short and sweet that doesn't come across as butthurt. "No problem, but you gotta make it up to me later ;). See you at school/work/whatever." In the meantime you should have at least 3 women you are fucking or trying to fuck simultaneously so you really don't give a shit if this one comes to fruition or not.

When you see her wherever, walk up to her and ask her to come out with you, that you don't bite , and you want to get to know her outside of wherever. Just keep the playful flirty banter up. Some women do take time..it's not always easy as pie.

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Archwinger · 2015-04-06T21:11:53+00:00

"I have to bail on our date."

Two options:

1) "k"

2) "who is this"

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-04-07T01:49:52+00:00

Be like ALL RIGHT, BUT YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TO SUCK IT.

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