Does anyone feel you have more success with women when you don't make them a priority?

akrolina · 2019-12-10T08:33:02+00:00

Yes, that’s how it should be. Women fall in love with you, not with your efforts to hook up. And even though woman wants to be the most important thing in your life in later stages of the relationship, in the beginning they want a man who has hobbies, nice job that he loves and friends so she does not have to make-up to all those things in your life if you would get into relationship. Also, if you make a woman first FIRST priority you may come out as desperate and no one likes desperation in general.

testzxcvb · 2019-12-10T09:11:31+00:00

Yes, of course. This is a given. Stay on your purpose and that is naturally masculine energy i.e. achievement, conquering, competition, providing... Feminine energy is about connection, emotions, inclusion etc. So stay on track and achieve your goals and they will be drawn in.

billmac69 · 2019-12-10T16:18:11+00:00

This is the most often confused subject in relationship. Women need to be on your priority list. However they don't want to be the top priority! NEVER! That comes across as needy. Needy is repulsive.

You are your top priority. Your passions are next. Then you make room for your girl

Women are attracted to you due to the order of your priorities.

That is the key.

NewtypeJ · 2019-12-10T16:04:14+00:00

Yes. Simple as that. Women are priority #7 for me. Things I care about more... My life, my family, my career, my financial success, my condo, and my bike, in no particular order. I notice that being like this naturally makes me more attractive. In other words, have a life. Lifestyle game is more attractive than anything else.

shearobertson11 · 2019-12-10T19:01:44+00:00

i’m the same way. i don’t even go on dates cuz my life is already good so if anyone wants to join the ride they’re welcomed to. when i focus on them i don’t get the best return compared to not focusing on them

Odz86 · 2019-12-10T15:07:09+00:00

"Disinterest makes interest." - Mystery

His whole method is based on this.

billgrimes5 · 2019-12-10T15:39:30+00:00

That’s true, in a sense it captures part of the essence of playing heard to get-In that you aren’t desperate to secure a date or sex. You are unattached, indifferent. People want what they can’t have. You not chasing leaves them room to chase you.

Also, it opens you to serendipitous encounters. Leaving it more to fate and chance, which some people find exhilarating.

staedtler_00 · 2019-12-10T16:44:54+00:00

It s thin line between interest and desperation. Golden middle should be priority .

Kenic_In_MD · 2019-12-10T17:22:33+00:00

Absolutely, you waste your time less as well. Nowadays I approach girls i'm interested in. If it doesn't feel right or they are being stingy then I just move on. If they can't see a million dollars looking at them dead in the eyes then why do I want to waste my time?

ProducerNYC90 · 2019-12-10T19:33:34+00:00

I disagree. Most guys who say they are busy with other things and are fine not dating women are lieing. Sex is a natural need that must be met to live a healthy life. Girls will not magically manifest themselves if you just ignore them and "work on yourself". Working on yourself is great and mandatory as well, but if you're not sleeping with women you need to go out and approach girls. Unless you're in top the 15% in terms of male looks, you will just not have time social and sex life you want by avoiding girls.

In addition, approaching women can literally improve many other aspects in your life. Facing those fears gives you confidence, you develop better social skills are transferable to other areas like careers, businesses, net working, social circle game etc.

One great example. I was at a wedding recently and met a lovely girl who I technically had hung out with like ten years prior in a larger group of friends, but still didn't really know her. We hit it off through conversation and eventually started dancing and making out. We dated for two months after this. Yes, you could say I wasnt actively approaching at the wedding and she just happened to be sitting next to me at the dinner table. So you could argue that by not seeking her out, I was "awarded" with her. But situations like these may only happen once or twice a year. And more importantly, If I hadnt been actively approaching girls in the months leading up to this, I wouldnt of had the skills or balls to escalate and started making out with her on the dance floor.

Cold approach will train you for those situations in which the gods bless you with a beautiful women through social circle or similar event. If you havent been developing game, you will not succeed wit her. Unless of course you have amazing looks, which something tells me most guys on this forum do not.

joshuaneri11 · 2019-12-10T18:56:33+00:00

Yes!

Tucsonheatwave · 2019-12-10T20:37:54+00:00

I feel like when I focus on myself everything else falls into place. Absolutely believe in your statement.

2019-12-10T22:56:24+00:00

Hey man, it's your world, we're just livin in it

throwawayacccount321 · 2019-12-10T23:48:02+00:00

Yeah. But then I ask them out and boom, gone. So im just here confused as fuck about a lot of girls. But then again.. I do recall how many days in we are in the month and that it is that time of the month. Happens two times that she peaks in sexual desire. But then its gone. Which honestly sucks and leaves me just annoyed. Like the fuck you want woman.

firelitother · 2020-02-06T08:53:57+00:00

I have not made meeting women as a priority and it got me nowhere.

As much as this sub advocate not meeting women as a priority, it can easily turn into a mental excuse to avoid rejection.

Title	Does anyone feel you have more success with women when you don't make them a priority?
Author	bayfarm
Upvotes	27
Comments	24
Date	December 10, 2019 8:17 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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