First ever cold approache(s) (at 25 years old)

nickh727 · 2020-01-21T15:41:27+00:00

Bro go to a college campus, at least they’re 18 and up. You gotta start somewhere and you did so good job! Just stay consistent and you should be fine. Also don’t watch porn or masturbate cause that’ll kill the confidence.

shadowed_widower · 2020-01-21T15:38:01+00:00

Visit a bar for better results is my best advice Walmart is not the best spot for ladies

Reha_A · 2020-01-21T21:49:29+00:00

What the hell man, you don't judge yourself in your first time cause of the same reason you didn't judge yourself at the time you couldn't go for slam dunk when you were 4 feet tall. Tap yourself on the shoulders and say who really can talk to a stranger on Walmart specially when you are sober? Probably not the %99 percent of US.

Give yourself props and focus on sharpening your skills and let me tell you this man you will be seeing differences in big chunk of time, so stop judging yourself weekend to weekend and start doing it in 3-6 months.

throwingitawayguy300 · 2020-01-21T15:38:01+00:00

Good job on the cold approach. But just keep working on your game. Maybe she just wasn’t in the mood. Also high schoolers might not be a good match for you.

Hubblenobbin · 2020-01-22T04:14:50+00:00

she just laughed at me and said i had no game

Hahahahaha. I'm not laughing at you here. I'm laughing at the situation. I've been there.

Dude you gotta see the hilarity in that, you need to be able to take your ego out of it and laugh at yourself. Laugh at how ridiculously absurd that interaction was. That's funny as fuck. It should make you happier for the next approach.

She's right you don't have any game, AND THAT'S OKAY! You'll get there, it'll just take practice. Girls do us a serious favor when they reject us like that. They don't waste our time and they give us crystal clear feedback about when we went wrong. Hard blowouts make us more confident because we recognize we're still alive afterwards.

We need more detailed FR's around here. Well done friend, you're doing it right.

then i went home and got drunk to cope with the overwhelming self hatred that i can't get a high schoolers number

Again, that's the ego talking, you need to disengage failed approaches from your self worth. Getting the attraction part of game down takes time, it's hard. Her being in high-school has nothing to do with it.

https://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit/comments/eqz1v6/whats_your_estimated_success_rate_as_a_percentage/ff4nd73?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x

Me: oh hey, i'm xx. you in college?

Start learning to tease. If you're going to go with question game, make sure you tease her for her answer. Here's a tease for that answer in the form of a push-pull "Damn girl you look good for your age, but you might be too young for me." Practice making these by looking at a list of stock answers she might give for your questions, then making push-pulls on the spot.

Me: cool, you live around here?

her: yup

Make this a cold read instead. "You look like you don't get out much, you live close huh."/"You seem like a local girl" (honestly this should be restricted to later in the interaction, asking her where she lives is a logistical question and thus requires more comfort.)

me: can i have your number?

"What's your number?"

You didn't have enough attraction for this close anyway though. Also, frame the close as a win for her. "Are you spontaneous?" "Okay cool we can hang out" #close

NewbieCasanova · 2020-01-21T16:29:54+00:00

Take that negativity as motivation to push you foward. Enjoy the process, results are fun too. But the journey is what matters. Think of this as your first step. You will suck, fail, and mourn over rejections. Embrace and accept it. It happens to everyone. Read up on pua material as you progress! Good luck

frengee · 2020-01-21T17:23:55+00:00

Nice, man. I like seeing FR's in script form.

Everyone says 'what you say doesn't matter' when it comes to game, but I struggle to believe that that's true so like seeing what exactly was said!

Good luck

ps

then i went home and got drunk to cope with the overwhelming self hatred that i can't get a high schoolers number

I tihnk you'd be surprised. I'd say they are probably by far the hardest targets! I find the younger they are, the less chance I have

They tend to be shy, find it odd to be cold approached and so don't talk back, only talk to people in their social circle, and they get a million messages and compliments from dudes per day due to always being on social media (snap, insta etc) so they are very much aware of their sexual value

I also think they're by far the most superficial in terms of looks

whirleymon · 2020-01-22T02:37:35+00:00

127? You gotta lift bro.

CharacterNote · 2020-01-22T08:08:01+00:00

your game was good enough (although not great. Needed to stay in set longer before going for a number ideall). LIkely You just weren't her type. That'll be the case 95% of the time unless you're some Brad Pitt lookalike lol. Some different 'lines' wouldn't have got her, tbh. Next!!

putcoolusernamehere · 2020-01-22T20:37:26+00:00

I would not call this a successful approach. You found out she's a high schooler then continued to ask where she lives and what her number is. You're 25, so you have to be careful not to get a case. Should've let the conversation die out and ejected. And you shouldn't be mad at yourself for not being able to get a high schoolers number, you should be mad for trying to get a high schoolers number.

Arcchimedes · 2020-01-22T22:36:31+00:00

Dude this made me laugh out of empathy lol.

Never call yourself ugly, not even internally.

Try talking to random girls in public in places like furniture stores, coffee shops, museums, smaller clothing stores. Ask them for advice on whatever items are for sale. This takes the pressure off.

You're nervous because you're thinking about sex first instead of the connection which is pervy. You then are paranoid that she knows you're a perv. Just talk to random cute girls about random stuff, with no objective. Do it for 3 weeks n see how you feel

Arcchimedes · 2020-01-23T01:27:58+00:00

If it makes you feel better, one time in high school I walked up to my crush and told her, "I think I saw your dad on roulette". And she basically just looked at me like die.

Another time I was talking to my college crush too hammered next to her friend who was wearing open told shoes. Dropped my drink on both of their feet mid conversation.

Had to see both of those girls in person for months afterward. It's funny to me now. So don't kick yourself for striking out with strangers

ImportantHead3 · 2020-01-23T12:46:56+00:00

Bro, pat yourself in the back because you have tremendous balls. Chin up, you did it.

amianangel · 2020-01-24T01:25:47+00:00

i wanna give ya a good pat on the back for even going out to do that, that shit is HARD. but. in a walmart scene i would’ve been immediately on guard with you, and would’ve scouted an escape plan the second you asked “you live around here?” remember that lots of girls, especially young ones, are probably calculating if you’re a threat or not. even if you yourself have no bad intentions, so many men do. in a walmart? check out what she’s looking at, maybe start a conversation off of that. or, honestly, skip the “hey” and straight up say “i’m sorry to bother you but you’re very pretty, can i have your number?” id give it to you!

Title	First ever cold approache(s) (at 25 years old)
Author	david_the_elder
Upvotes	3
Comments	30
Date	January 21, 2020 3:34 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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