Is Dating Fatigue a part of the seduction game?

Imperator_Pyra · 2020-03-16T19:46:53+00:00

I don't think you're tired of dating - I think you're tired of long chats that lead nowhere.

A possible solution is then to avoid long chats and try to get a girl out on a date as soon as possible (highly recommended), or to get off the dating apps and talk to women in real life (VERY highly recommended).

Insaneflirt_max · 2020-03-16T19:29:31+00:00

Nope, this is the first step in becoming less needy. Congratulations. Now realize that you actually don't need to put that much effort and keep rolling.

Facelotion · 2020-03-16T20:20:40+00:00

That's why it is not recommended to talk for too long. Specially if you are texting.

You do it just long enough in the beginning to see if she is interested then you set the date and get off the phone.

bemore_ · 2020-03-16T18:29:30+00:00

It happens naturally, women are a distraction

You need some time to heal and process your experiences. You'll bounce back streamlined

mr_Tobbor · 2020-03-16T20:58:25+00:00

Sex is an "adverse effect" of a life. Your life. Do everything you like! Don't make sex your life's purpose!

Johnny_Ruble · 2020-03-16T21:19:04+00:00

Same here. It really took a toll. I still try on occasion but much less often. Dealing with frequent rejection can be hard on one’s sense of self worth & respect. But you can’t give up.. I mean, you could give up, but then you’ll end up staying alone.

lunacha · 2020-03-16T21:26:57+00:00

I don't think there's anything wrong with how you are feeling. As I got older, dating just seemed tiring to me and I wanted to go on less and less dates. I think it's a good thing, rather, that you are focusing this time on yourself, which is the more important in my opinion. Once you do meet someone though that you do have that strong connection with, you wouldn't feel that way.

2020-03-17T00:40:25+00:00

It's something you have to enjoy the process of in order to actually get better. Like anything if you don't enjoy the practice then you're not going to get good. It's just about finding the aspects of it that you enjoy. Me personally, I genuinely am curious about what everyone does in their free time so that's where I naturally gravitate conversations towards and I drill drill deeper until they are basically on autopilot telling me everything about their miniature garden gnome collection.

lunacha · 2020-03-16T21:27:04+00:00

I don't think there's anything wrong with how you are feeling. As I got older, dating just seemed tiring to me and I wanted to go on less and less dates. I think it's a good thing, rather, that you are focusing this time on yourself, which is the more important in my opinion. Once you do meet someone though that you do have that strong connection with, you wouldn't feel that way.

scupy42 · 2020-03-16T21:49:15+00:00

I started experiencing this a little while ago. Even though we’re not in a relationship I’d rather have one person that I enjoy my time with and can have fun satisfying sex with.

theosamabahama · 2020-03-17T00:54:05+00:00

I feel it too. Last year I went on a bunch of dates with girls from dating apps. It was a lot of fun. But none of those lead to a relationship or anything regular.

After some months, I just got tired of it. I didn't have the mental energy anymore to browse the apps like a maniac and think of wit fun conversations to have.

Right now I just want find one person to date regularly, be it in a relationship or just something casual. But I have to spend time and energy to find someone. I'm just so tired.

Reaver_ · 2020-03-16T21:54:40+00:00

This is actually a pretty prime spot to be in. If you feel more compelled to use your time to study, exercise, and read, then do exactly that! Put your time and energy into those, work on yourself, and enjoy this period of not having girls occupy your mind. Plus you'll be that much better for it when you decide to start dating again

lobitomascandados · 2020-03-17T00:13:15+00:00

I’m glad I’m not the only one that’s not into dating. That shit is exhausting, I thought there might be something wrong with me lol

Ho_KoganV1 · 2020-03-17T00:29:19+00:00

It’s the natural progression towards having standards

It just means you’re going to find someone you’ll REALLY REALLY like in the near future but you won’t be tired hanging out with them

dhottawa · 2020-03-17T01:13:00+00:00

Dating is exhausting in general. However, when you meet the right one; it will flow, and you won’t feel as you are

noobmaster1991 · 2020-03-17T06:22:13+00:00

You're not the only one. It's just a road block, it gets better men. Use this moment to do what you have to do. Let the seduction shmuck in the afterburner and better your value at this moment. Just keep socializing and get better with people and be safe from that virus.

foulxin64280 · 2020-03-18T17:12:37+00:00

Some ladies and some guys just like talking, that's just an extrovert thing. I feel tired and drift off in my own head, some take it negatively and bark back at that hahaa... Maybe try those who don't talk much? Since compelled doing things, I get drawn to the activity like meeting (business, sports, free hangouts or classes, etc.) I don't know but a lot of girls and girly guys just sure love to talk....

mr_Tobbor · 2020-03-17T02:11:17+00:00

It works. A minority can / want to practice it.

2020-03-19T21:00:28+00:00

You are likely overinvesting into women who arent compatible or interested. Make sure you screen well before getting a girls number. Does she have a boyfriend, does she qualify for your time etc

mr_Tobbor · 2020-03-16T20:02:15+00:00

Absolutelly! That is the reason no body gets any lays despite learning tons of seduction / game! It works for a tiny minoriry that get laid anyway. Saaaaddd!

grif0426 · 2020-03-16T22:54:39+00:00

Go outside, bro.

dizzig · 2020-03-16T22:58:33+00:00

You need a break. Until it’s fun and feels natural. In the meantime, do what the guy above said. Go outside and do something...hiking kayaking, fishing, cycling, beach sitting with scotch and a cigar, whatever.

2020-03-17T00:09:13+00:00

It's only fatigue when you suck at it.

Title	Is Dating Fatigue a part of the seduction game?
Author	throwaway230912
Upvotes	209
Comments	54
Date	March 16, 2020 5:52 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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