Once you're together how are you supposed to escalate sex every time?

CrazyCleatus · 2020-05-05T05:00:11+00:00

Just give her some kisses on the neck while watching a movie or some shit. If she seems into it, start feeling her titties, and escalate from there (asking for sex is beta as fuck. Its all about the body language).

maninthesky00 · 2020-05-05T08:31:29+00:00

Unpopular opinion: It's not beta to ask for sex. I agree that the ideal way would be to get her into the mood with some light kissing, dirty talk throughout the day or whatever it is but take this scenario. You try to initiate sexy time, she doesn't reciprocate maybe she's not in the mood or she's having a bad day. You leave it at that maybe a little disappointed. Maybe the next day you try again and it doesn't work. Your ego is hurt and you might want her to initiate which is really uncertain. So instead of all the uncertainty, you could talk to her. You're confident, you're a man, you've needs, you're adults so just talk to your partner about what's bothering you. That's my two cents.

bufz221 · 2020-05-05T05:24:26+00:00

2 steps forward 1 step back, kiss her, kiss neck and all that but I like to break away from kissing them first to leave them wanting more, then keep building

planetghostiez · 2020-05-05T05:13:37+00:00

I def wouldn’t ask for sex straight up ahahah. Honestly wouldn’t worry about how to escalate sex, it comes naturally. You’ll be able to feel when the mood is right and know when it is ok to go further.

lolomotif12 · 2020-05-05T08:35:56+00:00

I agree with most things said here but me personally I make sure they know my "I want sex" look, so when I give that look no matter where we are they know what's down.

hooksarchives9303 · 2020-05-05T07:14:12+00:00

My partner and I usually hang out with friends/roommates so our only alone time is going to bed or waking up. We take our opportunities where we can, lol and we’ll make a coffee run and I give him road head. Or when we watch movies I know he likes when I kiss his earlobe and it escalates from there.

RedSweet88 · 2020-05-05T09:33:36+00:00

My hubby in I been together for 16 years. We are 32. I have a really high sex drive and thank god he does too. The days that he works we have sex after he get out the shower I am already in bed waiting. Lol We lay down in I will start to give him head every time for a little and so on. The days he is off of work we have sex like 3 times. When I am cleaning he will come grab my ass and I am always like... ok drop whatever I doing in walk to the room. I love having sex with my man.

2020-05-05T07:25:39+00:00

Pretty much the only time I invite a girl over is for sex so they catch on quick. But I would never say "I'm horny come over" it was more along the lines of hey let's watch netflix or hangout etc.

2020-05-05T10:04:02+00:00

Her and I usually will be in bed or somewhere private. We'll start looking at each other and start building tension. Then we'll make-out and she'll either start grabbing my dick or one of us will say "let's fuck."

33jeremy · 2020-05-05T13:16:28+00:00

It really depends on the person. Everyone is different and we can´t know what floats his/her boat based on just a question like this. But generally find out what they like and what arouses them (it can be kisses, sweet talk, a certain scent etc.)

MrMemper · 2020-05-05T14:29:37+00:00

Are you fucking right now? My guess is no and you’ve got your imagination way down the road. Get talking with some girls first my man.

nosympathyforpolice · 2020-05-05T12:16:45+00:00

You probably don’t want to escalate sex every time. That could get out of hand quickly.

quirkypinkllama · 2020-05-05T15:54:38+00:00

I make out with tongue and start touching everywhere to indicate i want it ;)

Eros-69 · 2020-05-05T16:18:52+00:00

Its very simple, and honestly comes naturally. I generally just grab her and start kissing her, and escalate from there, might just start groping her right off the bat. Depending on if i'm wanting something dirty or something more sensual.

Never ask for sex btw, sex is supposed to be mutually wanted. Asking for it risks turning it into an obligation instead.

Physically initiating it will actually turn her on in ways "want sum fuk" never can, which turns it into something you both want.

I know the popular wisdom these days is "communication is key" but honestly, I disagree. Sure, it has its place. But the less you need to verbally communicate, the sexier it is. If communication is required, it should happen while you're not having sex.

Dirty talk is different though.

2020-05-05T16:25:19+00:00

Im literally leaving this sub due to the amount of people using the term 'beta' unironically. You fucking insecure losers.

CrazyCleatus · 2020-05-05T18:14:01+00:00

I have all the theoritical knowledge . We were to this movie . She was hot . And I knew she wanted to be there because she booked the tickets . But I chickened out didn't make the move , because of multiple reasons . Basically I was in my head .fcuk .

Is a recovery possible? I can totally read body language but just scared to make the move .

Brochaho · 2020-05-06T00:47:29+00:00

Same way you would have sex with her if it was your first time hanging out. Flirt with her, make her laugh, look her in the eye, cuddle, give her a massage, spoon with her, kiss on her neck, make out with her, grab her tits, work it down to the pussy and once she’s begging for it let her suck you and then fuck her or give her what she wants. The key isn’t getting her to “let you” fuck her, it’s making her want to fuck you.

And if you don’t do it like that guys like me will meet her out at the bar one night and give her what she’s been missing.

HoobaDooba420 · 2020-05-05T23:18:20+00:00

Ask her to kiss you on the neck

MightyMimi72 · 2020-05-06T03:26:55+00:00

Whispering "I want you" in her ear like you're a savage beast works too. For me anyway.

recyclablebanthas · 2020-05-08T10:13:31+00:00

Do you just say baby you wanna have sex now?

This has a way of ruining the moment, whether it's a new sex partner or one you've been with before.

Do you have a time set up?

I can't think of a better way of ruining the moment than this. You can't schedule passion.

While it can be necessary sometimes to deliberately make time 4 sexy time, in general, having a fixed time is a joy killer.

It can fluctuate day by day depending on how each person is feeling but I don't want to be that person who's always begging while my partner has no desire.

It's generally going to go in cycles where one person or the other will be the one with higher desire. Though sometimes you'll both be at the same level.

Every relationship is different but I'm curious to know how couple typically arrange time for sex.

It really depends on what kind of relationship you created for yourself, and what sort of people you've screened out during your dating process.

As such, it won't really matter what results other people are getting, so much as it will matter what process you're going through.

Can you speak at all to what sorts of things you're screening girls out for?

idontmeananyofthis · 2020-05-05T13:33:22+00:00

Say I’m just standing with her and having a conversation. How can I sexually escalate?

TheMailmanic · 2020-05-05T15:42:03+00:00

Title	Once you're together how are you supposed to escalate sex every time?
Author	bayfarm
Upvotes	91
Comments	50
Date	May 5, 2020 4:12 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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