Ok, let's go the opposite way and help avoid cringy situations. What are some signs a female is NOT interested?

zayswervo · 2020-06-10T15:06:54+00:00

dry responses , text back late or no text back at all , leaving you on read or seen shit like that

jcage48 · 2020-06-10T14:00:30+00:00

one word answers, avoids you.. your in a tree outside her house

Workamaholic · 2020-06-10T19:55:05+00:00

Note these are only indicators for most cases, and will vary based on context. I have had a few (albeit rare) experiences where the person just had really bizarre body language and even admitted later that they are horrible at flirting.

-When talking with you she points her feet or her body away from you, this is even worse if her feet are towards an exit. She is subconsciously trying to get a way.

-Little to no eye contact. One word responses. Dismissive tone. there is a different subtle look to someone who is looking away from nervousness and someone who is looking away because they want to get away. It’s mostly indicated through tone of voice and how if their mouth is more down turned.

-self-comforting behavior: crossing and rubbing an arm, a forehead. This one is split because it can either mean she’s extremely nervous because she’s embarrassed and shy or nervous because she doesn’t know how to get away from you. You’ll learn to see the difference, but sometimes if I can’t tell I’ll be like. “Did you just get out of a bar fight and hurt your elbow/head/whatever she’s rubbing. If she smiles about it. It’s cool. If not. Say, well nice talking with you and walk away.

Remember your job is not to dread these responses. It’s to look for them and be prepared to walk away if you see them. It’s really no big deal. Before we had the ability to communicate as a species. This was our Only way to communicate and it people who understand and speak with body language are often more successful because it brings them confidence.

What you can do to test:

A few people on here have just said ask what she feels for you. I’m sorry but in most cases and in my experience this is awful advice.

Part of the experience of flirting is demonstrating sociability by showing how observant and confident you are. It would be like playing poker and only making a bet after you ask what cards the other player has. No fun in that. What a boring guy. You’re missing the whole point of connecting.

There are tests you can give when interacting with someone to see how they respond and get information on how they feel about you. A few of my favorites:

-when you first approach and you’ve started a conversation through some opener. “Hey I saw you over here and I needed to ask you... (whatever goofy bullshit pretense depending on your location.) She laughs or smirks hopefully if you do this confidently. Now, pause for a beat, and ask what her name is. I don’t Introduce myself I ask HER name. She’ll usually tell you. Now wait and see if she asks your name back. If she doesn’t, it doesn’t always mean you’re in bad spot. But mostly it does. When she does ask you’re in a good place. She’s likely at least interested. I like to tease her tell her I don’t give my name out to strangers especially the dangerous looking ones. It’s all playful bullshit. If you’re not having fun you’re doing it wrong. Do things that will be fun for you. Even if you get rejected. This is HUGELY important.

-Next up: build a little report with talking but then move to reciprocating touch. You make her laugh. Or you land a punchline or she does, laugh and lightly touch her on the arm or on the back. If she recoils.

Either A: It’s way too soon and you haven’t built enough rapport to touch her and she may just not dig you yet

Or

B: she has had a previous awful experience where she does not like to be touched. Or doesn’t like you at all.

Remember to always stay immovable from a place of positive confidence. Like if she said the meanest shit to you could shake it off with a smile.

Finally the kiss test. If you’re on a date with someone and you’ve been talking and she lets you touch her shoulder etc while laughing and building connection, when you’re walking her to her car. Walk away a head of her a bit and see if she stays close to you. For the most part if she’s trying to stay next to you even if you walk serpentine, she’s into you. Usually this just means when you get to the car. Go for the kiss.

Kissing is like standing up when learning to surf. If you wait for the perfect moment you’ll miss it. You have to stand up and show that wave you’re not afraid of it and you’ll wipe out once or twice maybe but for the most part you’re good.

However, if you are still uncertain. If you see that she has hair covering her forehead at all (and sometimes you can do this earlier) slightly and slowly raise your hand and brush the hair out of her face. If the girl is into you she’ll let you. If she pulls back with a what are you doing. You can be like. You had hair in your face, say goodnight and walk off.

Bonus points If the girl is into you and you do this... it’s a huge Turn-on for women as it’s a pretty confident and somewhat gentle sweet move.

Good luck out there gentleman. Remember to never take any of there indicators as rock hard signs of interest. Only indicators. If you gain experience you’ll get a better feel for it. It will get to a point where kissing won’t make you nervous on dates at all and you’ll sometimes actively have to pull back because maybe YOU don’t want to kiss HER.

Texting is a whole other thing and I gotta get back to work.

babyyamss · 2020-06-10T15:27:01+00:00

Every girl will be different... to avoid the awkward cringe situations I would just straight up ask her how she feels about you.. personally I like when guys are upfront and just say what they are thinking, and if she tells you she’s not interested then there’s your answer, now you can find someone else or maybe you being straight up will make her interested?

gucciwillis · 2020-06-10T14:57:41+00:00

in my experience the only way to really tell is a court mandated restraining order, otherwise there’s no real way to tell

ta69999 · 2020-06-10T14:10:46+00:00

If think the most obvious one would be if you walk in her general direction and she folds her arms and turns her back to you.

Women obviously communicate through body language BUT negative body language can be misinterpreted when really they are just shy and nervous. This is why you shouldn't really wait for signals.

jcage48 · 2020-06-10T18:36:23+00:00

There's no way to avoid cringe situations when you're doing daygame or nightgame.

If you can tell from a girl's body language when she's not interested (i.e. folded arms, facing away from you, not making eye contact) then those are signs you should probably just ejected.

henlostinky123 · 2020-06-10T18:29:42+00:00

Current crush is genuinely just shy and quiet so it makes it hard to tell if she’s just bad at socializing or if she’s just not into me. Then you have dudes in this sub who wanna say “bro if you think she doesn’t like you, she probably doesn’t” and then you have another group of people who say “don’t assume shit because she can just be shy or playing hard to get”

PohFahVoh · 2020-06-10T15:59:19+00:00

If at any point you think to yourself 'I really can't tell whether she's interested or not'

she's not

ChilledMojito05 · 2020-06-10T16:04:36+00:00

She can be attracted but don't want to have any relationship or anything. Happened to me. It wasn't pretty.

-braincellbattle- · 2020-06-10T22:50:12+00:00

If someone that I am not interested in is trying to flirt with me, I will try to find my way out of that conversation immediately. So if she looks like she’s trying to bolt while you’re talking to her or is ignoring you, take that as a huge sign.

putcoolusernamehere · 2020-06-10T21:36:30+00:00

I think being upfront and honest about your intentions, while giving her opportunities to take an out if she wants to will do that. Most of the times I've creeped out girls in my life, it's been because I wasn't clear about my intentions. When you ask her out, specify that it's a date. I've sat through several painfully awkward movie dates where it's clear the girl didn't want it to be a date (she responds poorly to my touch, didn't dress up, etc...). It's tough to do, but be direct about your reason for inviting her to do something.

putcoolusernamehere · 2020-06-10T21:42:12+00:00

Also, when doing daygame, never lurk. If you're going to approach, approach in the first 3 seconds or gtfo. I once walked by this one girl a handful of times trying to decide if I was going to approach her. I decided she wasn't my type and left her be. I later circled around to this super cute girl I wanted to approach. Right as I'm going to approach, I realize the girl I had lurked earlier was on the isle too and she had spotted me. This girl berates me asking me what do I want why am I following her. I mumble something weak about not knowing what she's talking about, but my chance to approach the cutie passed as she new thought I was a creep. This situation could've been avoided by being more decisive.

mr_Tobbor · 2020-06-10T20:04:39+00:00

K i s s. Keep it stupid simple. Approach and stay until they leave or tell you to leave.

whatdoyoumean05 · 2020-06-10T14:40:35+00:00

You'll know.

MiesCB · 2020-06-10T20:41:52+00:00

Besides all the other answers the most important one, to me and most likely other girls, is very simple. When they say no or not interested.

GIJne69 · 2020-06-11T03:36:08+00:00

When she changes the subject abruptly after you express how you feel, especially if it's dropping hints about another men, her single friends, etc. When she ignores your texts continuously or replies in a very short response always. If she avoids you too be with her friends or she makes plans with you and abruptly changes her mind and cancels or doesn't show up.

scarrax · 2020-06-11T19:17:00+00:00

One word answers, closed off body language, bitchy tone, are the obvious ones.

Not so obvious: Has a friendly demeanour but if you really think about it, she’s giving off more of a “fake nice” vibe. She’s being polite but there’s a lack of enthusiasm.

VRS38 · 2020-06-18T03:22:16+00:00

She says 'not interested'

TomasGee · 2020-06-10T17:06:45+00:00

She walks away. Only signal u should concern yourself with.

Dominus-Prime- · 2020-06-10T17:33:15+00:00

Really dude? You need a reddit discussion to sort out the signs if a woman isn’t interested in you? This is like a new level of dense. Either that or you’re just bored and wanted to make a topic.

kortniluv1630 · 2020-06-10T19:27:19+00:00

If you can’t tell, she’s either 1) not into you or 2) playing games. Avoid both types.

Title	Ok, let's go the opposite way and help avoid cringy situations. What are some signs a female is NOT interested?
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Date	June 10, 2020 1:43 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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