Is it optimal to be more direct with certain girls

OrzhovPalatine · 2020-10-14T15:20:08+00:00

At some point you always have to be direct. Even if the girl likes you alot and makes it super easy for you you're gonna have to take her up on that offer and approach her.

Its always optimal. Girls aren't going to approach you and ask you out directly, they've never had to talk a dude into dating them and arent socialized to deal with rejection.

Humpzelot · 2020-10-14T16:42:28+00:00

being direct is always a good thing imo. It’s how you react to their response that will determine value.

Sad_Farm · 2020-10-14T16:28:10+00:00

Depends on the person saying it and the person you’re saying it to. It might work really well for some and bad for others. I personally really like it because you won’t have to guess if a girls into you or not. And even if shes not if saves you time. Girls do like compliments but not too many. Could come of creepy if you have that demeanor but only way to know is to try Good Luck!

shathecomedian · 2020-10-14T20:33:04+00:00

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Ihave2manyquestionss · 2020-10-14T18:20:35+00:00

Honestly it depends. If you're talking about beaating around the bush as in you're scared you'll get rejected if you're direct I'd advise you to rather just go for and act confident. In my experience it's easier to act confident for a shorter duration then a longer one. So if she kinda intimidates you chances are beating around the bush will come across as being unsure of yourself which is a turn off. If you are however feeling calm and confident not being too direct can be really good, as it can build playful/flirty tension and you'll leave more of an impression on her.

This is just my personal opinion. Someone @ me if I'm wrong 😂

drakos94 · 2020-10-14T12:48:11+00:00

I think most available women would prefer a direct approach anyways

BonvivantNamedDom · 2020-10-14T18:46:15+00:00

People who think shy and nerdy girls are easier to pick up dont have a clue about dating and just make stuff up.

No one cares if youre a 25 years old virgin until you start lying. Or whatever your situation is. The first step is to be honest to yourself and us, if you ask us for advice.

On topic: being direct helps make your intentions clear but it is not per se the better approach. What it depends on is your problem zones. Many guys,and you probably, are just not direct enough and never risk anything in fear of being rejected. Especially the longer it goes on.

Girls treat you nicer if they think youre platonic BUT they dont let you in their panties as youre not percieved as a sexual being.

So being more direct helps people who cant make their intentions clear. But not everyone has that problem. Some are indirect, but its still obvious theyre flirting because they transmit that better through body language.

It can actually push women away as its too much for them to handle butit works very well with sexually confident women (which are rare. alpha women basically).

NDex101 · 2020-10-14T22:50:14+00:00

I think of it on a scale easy to very hard and every place in between. Make no mistake though, women are well.seasoned and can find holes in your game. I always try and run it over in my head, that is, how well everything went over. She may mock or be inviting enough to put you down. Pass the challenges she throws and you should be fine.

NDex101 · 2020-10-15T00:11:04+00:00

Although, there are exceptions to this rule. I'm sorry to unplug you from the matrix, but women play games in all forms and fashions. It's why society deems it a game. The cliche"I've been out of the game for too long." There are social constructs everywhere you go. This just happens to be how dating goes. Wouldn't it be perfect if we could just write on a piece of paper, do you like me check yes or no.

Its0ver4U · 2020-10-16T02:00:55+00:00

What if I'm really ugly?

How am I supposed to approach them without getting the cops called on me? (I've had it happen 2 times before)

Title	Is it optimal to be more direct with certain girls
Author	shathecomedian
Upvotes	15
Comments	17
Date	October 14, 2020 12:13 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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