How do you weed out women who just a friendzone?

atomant88 · 2020-11-04T12:48:36+00:00

if you dont want to be friends; dont act like a friend. act like a romantic interest if thats what you want. be romantic, signal interest.

Lady__stoneheart · 2020-11-04T13:42:58+00:00

Be upfront. Tell her you are interested romantically. If she says anything besides yes, walk away. Don't be a friend if you don't want to be a friend.

Mistermistery101 · 2020-11-04T17:32:39+00:00

Pretty much what everyone said. You won't be friendzone if that's not your intentions, conscious or otherwise.

Think of it like that. You don't just end up in a business relationship. Both parties have to mutually agreed to involve themselves in the venture.

Same things with friends. Let's use same sex friends as an example. If you don't want to be friends with this dude, but he really wants to be friends with you, what happens? You don't just go along with whenever he asks you out. You literally just avoid him or tell him outright you're not down to hang with him.

Other than flirting, the other way is just simply being direct in your intentions. Now that can come in the form of being direct verbally, but not necessarily (granted it's the most efficient way to avoid fuck shit). You can be direct in your intentions by keeping this key point in mind: NO FREE ATTENTION.

What I'm saying is to not give or accept any attention from her that is not in alignment with your intentions. I'll give you an example. There's this girl I matched with on tinder. Got her snap. Thing is she's not in the same state as me. I go to her state like once a month. I already told her I'll let her know whenever I'm in town.

From there, I don't contact her. I dont ask her how her days going. I don't send her a dick pic. On top of that, I rarely respond to any of her snaps that's not sexual in nature. So if she sends me a snap that mundane, or if it seems like a snap she's sending to 20 other dudes I just don't respond to it.

However, let's say it's a snap of her doing something sexual, I'd respond back just with something like "damn you look sexy" or "can't wait until I'm back in town".

Do you see what I'm doing? The point of the example is to show you what "no free attention " means. Simply put, don't give a girl any attention that's not in alignment to what you want. At the same time, don't accept or entertain any attempt from her to try and get you to give her attention (i.e, her sending you friend vibe snaps, trying to talk to you on the phone for hours for mundane shit)

kelseyduncan15 · 2020-11-04T14:48:35+00:00

I think they weed themselves out by letting you know they're not interested in you.

germano690 · 2020-11-04T20:08:13+00:00

Yoo I dont know your whole type of life but I will tell you that having a couple of hot babes as friends is great! Not only they can set you up with other girls but also when hanging out with them( which might be extremely cool) you will be perceived as high value.

And trust me if you are the one that start teasing her after being friends, make her jealous and tell her that "I would love to date you its a shame its impossible since we are such good friends" variation of this ahahahah they will persue you instead

Btw stop texting that's lame

Fallestevsky · 2020-11-05T01:24:03+00:00

So many people ont his thread saying "Get to the chase. Act like a romantic interest, not a friend." Which is fine advice, but I also often hear that you should be friends with someone a bit before you just ask em out. Which method is better? Or can they be reconciled?

2020-11-04T21:55:49+00:00

fuck them.

breanna22 · 2020-11-04T22:46:34+00:00

Don't expect a relationship from something that has no indication of romance

heathert7900 · 2020-11-05T13:34:09+00:00

Womennn don’t oweee youuu shit! And if you have ulterior motives, make sure they’re aware. Most men talking about “friend zone” are really just thinking that women owe them sex or a relationship, because they were nice to them. Bud, no one owes you shit. And I wouldn’t go ditching friends because they aren’t romantically interested in you, because word spreads fast. Unless of course you don’t see them as friends or actual people.

afuntimewashadbyall · 2020-11-04T14:42:05+00:00

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ShmoofPapiG · 2020-11-04T15:50:19+00:00

Usually women come out and make it obvious that they want you in the friend zone. As long as you make your intentions clear that your not trying to be friends, they will let you know if your are in the friend zone or not. Just don’t make it crystal clear that you just want to have sex with them. Women like to play games when it comes to sex so they won’t look like sluts when giving it up to a guy. So you just being straightforward about it will turn her away. When you build it up to sex and she pulls back, just pull back with her. Don’t get mad just don’t act like anything happened. After a few minutes try again, and eventually she’s gonna crack if u pushing her buttons right. And I think your going about it the right way. We shouldn’t be texting women 24/7 and talking to them. That’s what friends or texting buddies do.

burncushlikewood · 2020-11-04T21:03:29+00:00

If you're being friendzoned it's cause you're being too nice. Be yourself and treat her as an equal and don't pedistalize her. When you act like sex isn't going to happen and friendzoned her then all of a sudden she's chasing after you. You'll be surprised that women want what they can't have. Give her plenty of space and stay patient with your escalation

Czekraft · 2020-11-04T23:08:46+00:00

If you want to get with them just be honest about it so you don't waste your time. They respect a guy who's more direct.

afuntimewashadbyall · 2020-11-05T00:59:04+00:00

Be direct. Ive friendzoned and been friendzoned.

Honestly if youre not direct and dont get rejected you wont even be good friends.

Im friends with a girl who rejected me and decidely not "friendzoned".

PepeLePunk · 2020-11-05T05:27:12+00:00

Escalate until she either says Yes or No.

You can talk all you want, but unless you are escalating physically with her you can't know what she wants. It starts with small touches and compliance tests all the way until either sex or rejection.

That's it.

2020-11-05T06:08:23+00:00

Fastest way is be absolutely direct about what you want. E.g "I want to have sex with you and take you on dates exclusively over the next few months". Put her in a position to say yes or no..

If she says "no .. but we can be friends!", ACCEPT the no, and respectfully say goodbye. You don't need her as a friend, you wanted her a romantic partner and she rejected that offer.

Krssven · 2020-11-05T10:56:46+00:00

F38 here. Had several boyfriends and one girlfriend.

You’ll never find out who is attached to you and who isn’t by not engaging women for extended periods of time. But to be honest the rambling around this subject by previous posts doesn’t even get to the point.

If you make friends with women, that’s how they’ll view you forever unless you make a move, and that’s the critical thing here. ASK.

If you want to date someone, ask them! Don’t just feel your way around the subject, ask!

Most women like a confident person who will have the guts to actually ask them out. Then they can give a yes/no answer and you both know where you stand. If it’s no, then you know immediately that you will only ever be this woman’s friend.

Another issue is guys approaching this like some kind of organised project, sorting women they know into love interests/non-love interests and discarding the ones they don’t want to date. Humans are allowed to have friendships with people of the opposite sex. It’s fine, it happens!

Please be prepared for the shock horror of just being friends with women. Not every woman you know is just looking for an excuse to shag you uber horny fellas...some of them want to know you because you’re a good/funny/happy person.

That’s not to say those women don’t exist...personally I’m eyeing up most men and women where I work because...dammit there are so many sexy people!

Harleyfxdl103 · 2020-11-05T11:38:00+00:00

express your intentions immediately it’s that simple

janus_Ouroboros · 2020-11-05T19:31:24+00:00

Gotta be sexual early on. The most success I've had is usually with sarcastic banter.

Title	How do you weed out women who just a friendzone?
Author	turbulentside1
Upvotes	12
Comments	61
Date	November 4, 2020 12:47 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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