Sex Addict?

xoxo2413 · 2021-02-20T14:53:52+00:00

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iron_ee · 2021-02-20T08:15:17+00:00

Carry yourself at the same level they do. Dont put them on a pedestal or you’ll always be viewed as inferior.

B500SL · 2021-02-20T14:12:24+00:00

I’m 39,but i really do like someone slightly older than me,but i do not limiting myself at certain numbers of age,because we never know our fate.My advice to you:You just haven’t meet the right person yet,don’t worry about your situations right now,try living in the moment(mindfullness) and always to improve yourself in any area of your life and when the time is right,the best person will come to your life and everything will fall into place.You got this!

caesarfecit · 2021-02-20T16:41:07+00:00

Personally, I think it's a little unrealistic to expect a guy 20+ years older than you to settle down with you and play house. And even if they did, there'd be a huge disparity in maturity level that would be difficult for even the most sincere relationship to overcome.

Tbh OP, you're just asking to be taken advantage of. It's one thing for a girl your age to want to mess around with older guys, but wanting a relationship with them puts you in an even more subservient position, and not in a kinky way, but in an unsafe way.

This reminds me a little bit of the old internet story of the self-admitted gold digger asking why she can't lock down a rich man, and a rich man replies saying "what do you bring to the table that matches what I could give you? Sure you're hot but that's a depreciating asset that makes me want to rent rather than buy."

But if you want to be taken seriously by older men, my advice would be learn to handle your own life. Men want to make it official with women who have value outside of sex and aren't needy. In fact, if you could combine some maturity and self-possession with the "submissive cutie" traits that drive men to younger women, you could be a force to be reckoned with.

But please be careful. Older men will treat you like shit if you let them.

_donkenstein_ · 2021-02-20T19:18:33+00:00

I'm in your target age range and am looking for something long term with a girl in her 20's. Not all men my age are just looking for sex. To be honest, it seem that most of the younger girls are just experimented with older men.
Keep looking...... eventually you'll run across the right man.

xoxo2413 · 2021-02-20T18:03:21+00:00

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2021-02-21T05:56:05+00:00

Find different men

BlancheCorbeau · 2021-02-21T05:58:06+00:00

Just... talk to them. The thing you are attracted to is these men know how to be themselves, and aren’t trying as hard to impress everyone.

Be like that. Be clear and ask for what you want, no weasel words or make them go first bullshit. You’ll find your guy if you do that.

It won’t even take long or be difficult. They’re out there, just waiting for you to be ready.

heavensanus · 2021-02-21T08:04:40+00:00

Are you sure you're communicating your wants properly? You used the word "nagging" in place of expressing and that tells you may not be communicating clearly.

I was recently in a semi serious relationship with a 22 yo (I'm 33) and although at times she gave me the impression that she wanted to be more serious, she never did communicate that to me. I, and many other men believe that it is the woman's place to initiate that conversation.

Cold_Application6193 · 2021-02-23T23:42:56+00:00

Be up front with what you want and don’t be afraid to not give I. To what they want until you get some of what you want! Don’t be afraid to blow them off a little until you have some of your needs met! You have to show them that your serious, not just use words and not give in!

xoxo2413 · 2021-02-20T07:58:16+00:00

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feenchbarmaid0024 · 2021-02-20T08:48:10+00:00

Be mature, grown up, with drive motivation and goals yet still keep that happy & fun vibe, thats what works with me and younger girls.

AffirmativePeace · 2021-02-20T09:51:39+00:00

I’m not here to diagnose you, but it seems like you have daddy issues and you’re looking for that father figure that you missed out on from childhood. I may be wrong, but.....

2021-02-20T11:28:29+00:00

Im 28 and I only Date Girls 18-24 and I don't see that to ever change. Alot of men think it makes them look weird to date a younger woman and people will judge them for it like this other guy in here. It's probably less of a problem with you than it is a problem they have with themselves. There will be the right guy for you out there, us men love younger women no matter how old we are.

xoxo2413 · 2021-02-20T10:45:40+00:00

Are you very feminine, in your style and mannerism. Are you attractive?

xoxo2413 · 2021-02-20T18:26:51+00:00

There are men in this group who shame other men for dating younger women?

Wow, so if a 35-40 year old woman dates a 20-25 year old man is she less of a woman?

2021-02-20T18:34:34+00:00

Your doing nothing wrong, it’s American culture. This is normal throughout the world and for the vast majority of human history.

I BELIVE the biggest issue is social shaming of those men,they would feel awkward being too serious because society now days says that it’s gross. Just like women are slut shamed,many men are looked at wierd now days if they have a young woman.

Your not doing anything wrong.You just haven’t found the right guy.

I’m 35 ,I’d date a 22 year old. And I’d consider something serious if she was a loyal, sincere and healthy woman with similar values.

However if you behave like a kiddy ,Tik tok watching brat, then I couldn’t have a serious relationship.

You are entitled to your preferences

xoxo2413 · 2021-02-20T18:50:13+00:00

I’m a 23 year old man and I have a on going fling with a 49 year old lady. I would never ever be in a relationship with her. Older man might be your fancy but young guys have it going on too. Not every young guy is full of shit you have to find them. Be realistic honey age doesn’t make you mature, experience does. The same shitbag at 23 is the shit bag at 45 only thing that changed is now he has a gut. Forget age and find out what you really want in a Man don’t be bias. Women rejected me because I’m young for them but their love life is non existent. People don’t like taking risks some do hence the lady m messing with. Do some soul searching

downstairslion · 2021-02-20T22:42:57+00:00

They have more to lose. What would their kids, friends, and exes say when they moved their 22 year old girlfriend in with them? If he's a good guy, he keeps all these relationships in mind when he's making choices. Give it a few more years and it will be a different story. If you're looking to settle down do it with someone 10 years older, not 20.

MisterShogunate · 2021-02-20T16:19:21+00:00

Filter them. Find common traits of men who don't want anything serious and use those to select against when you are doing your initial search.

Artistic_Tradition50 · 2021-02-20T18:31:11+00:00

You’re probably just a fuck toy. The reason you don’t like guys your age might be same reason they don’t take you seriously.

xoxo2413 · 2021-02-20T20:30:26+00:00

The brain doesn’t finish developing before the age of 25. You are too young to get married.

xoxo2413 · 2021-02-20T21:39:10+00:00

Because you’re young and immature to them.

McWhiters9511 · 2021-02-21T00:11:50+00:00

You can definitely find guys with similar demeanor at a younger age, just much harder to find. Most guys around your age wont be as confident and carefree and bold. But they do exist. See if you can find people who've been through a lot. The more someone experiences the more confident they become. They'll probably be more compassionate if they've been through a lot too.

asph100 · 2021-02-22T17:14:48+00:00

Would you elaborate on what "being taken seriously" means to you? What makes you feel that you are not being taken seriously? What would make you feel like you are being taken seriously?

Shadow__Account · 2021-02-23T15:51:09+00:00

I sometimes date girls your age and even though there have been some that really impress me in their ambition and emotional maturity work ethic and other things I will never take them serious for a relationship. I feel like there are certain natural phases we go through in life and even though we all go through them at different speeds and some people get stuck in some, it’s not a good thing to be with someone that’s on a totally different level in life experience, you can be having the same interests and journey of self development but you as a 22 year old will still have a different perfective and in my opinion it is always more limited, sort of like you would look at a 13 year old right now and because you have been there, while they think they are going through all kinds of unique experiences and struggles, you know exactly where they are at and what they are feeling and it becomes impossible to have an equal level relationship and it quickly becomes a teacher student or a manipulative relationship

Title	Sex Addict?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	27
Comments	130
Date	February 20, 2021 7:46 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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