Why do so many people never get good at game despite trying?

Therocksays2020 · 2021-03-27T06:57:47+00:00

Because there is another variable. The person being pursued.

Practicing guitar is easy because the guitar never changes. You play a note and that note never changes.

Your game will vary because different things work for different women. Those who can adapt and work on the fly can get good at game.

Marijuanomist · 2021-03-27T07:07:40+00:00

Learning to code or play the guitar can be learned through repetition. In both, you get immediate feedback on whether you're getting better, and can largely tell where exactly you're going wrong. A lot of other skills fall into this category, and are usually based on the acquisition of a physical and/or mental task, rather than being based on human interaction.

Dating/seduction/game is more like sales or art. You can keep practicing, but if you're doing it wrong, you're never going to be successful with people, and you won't ever improve. It's also hard to nail down where exactly you're going wrong. The feedback you do get is sparse, not easily interpreted, and may not even apply to the next person you date.

fvckCrosshairs · 2021-03-27T09:12:14+00:00

Because game is so dynamic you can't go by the script with it, especially when it includes other women which are different in their way all the time, all the techniques and game that you read about will never work on ALL women. Comparing coding to game is not a good comparison, it is different. Coding is straight facts and game is not, we're not seducing robots.

RegretsNothing1 · 2021-03-27T21:31:19+00:00

Because people care too damn much. Focus on your own growth, and be a good time with everyone around you. Then BOOM. Oh look! Someone is interested in me, and I've barely done anything.

Go figure.

Social skills are a wonderful thing.

ArmitageShanks69 · 2021-03-28T03:16:30+00:00

Not only is your assumption regarding guitar playing and computer programming false, if it were true it would be an unfair comparison simply because we are talking about manipulating inanimate objects versus influencing free-thinking sentient beings.

With that being said, like anything in nature and the Universe there are anomalies and in this case the anomaly is human dysfunction. Survival and replication may be the default function of the human life cycle but no one is born with the right to either. No one is entitled to sex or a life-partner just the same as no one is entitled to not be ridden with a terminal illness.

AruiMD · 2021-03-27T09:38:30+00:00

What are you talking about. There’s loads of crappy guitarists that play frequently.

I think that describes the majority. Most people suck at most things or at best are, average.

earsurgery9 · 2021-03-27T10:22:31+00:00

Because there is a huge variable/pre-requisite. E.g - she needs to be physically attracted to you. Same as you wouldn't wanna bang a girl who you weren't attracted too.

You can do everything perfectly (according to whoevers 'method' you are using) - you could open confidently, and say funny stuff, get some emotional convo going, self amuse, coldread, tease her, touch her, use pushpull blablabla and still have zero chance of getting her naked lol because you're just not her type. You can't negotiate attraction. Game isn't black magic. Best to not even think of it as a skill, tbh. More a game of numbers

When someone gets rejected, it is VERY unlikely it was because of their 'game' being bad. It wasn't because his approach angle was 10degree off. Unless he is very autistic and can't hold eye contact or whatever, it was unlikely his fault. It was simply because he wasn't her type. No big deal. Move on to the next. If you knew how often these 'pros' got rejected, I doubt you'd ask this question lol

relentless_pma · 2021-03-30T20:17:09+00:00

Do you actualy know people who are working on this everyday and still suck? Ofcourse it depends on what you call good.

gbizzle2 · 2021-03-27T10:25:18+00:00

Its because most people put women on a pedestal and view them as either equals or superior. Both of which turn women off on a primal (subconscious) level.

intensely_human · 2021-03-27T18:05:58+00:00

Those other scenarios are a situation with one conscious being interacting with a complex but ultimately purely responsive set of inanimate facts.

Seduction is a negotiation and other people don’t present the same kind of challenge as the guitar or computer code. People have their own agenda, which the materials of an artist do not. So your level of success in negotiation is going to be capped by what the other person is willing to permit.

And in general, the substance known as “people” will actively resist being mastered.

Title	Why do so many people never get good at game despite trying?
Author	BigBootyBear
Upvotes	13
Comments	27
Date	March 27, 2021 6:49 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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