Disrespect at the dinner table.

mabden · 2024-04-18T03:00:09+00:00

She won't fuck you (separate bedrooms), acts rude, disrespectful, undermines relationship with kids, and is unremorseful for said behavior with no indication of change.

Your options... Divorce.

BecomingABetterMan1 · 2024-04-18T04:32:19+00:00

I think you're not understanding how to nuke shit properly.

Imagine for a moment that instead of your wife acting this way, that it was some dude who was 1-2 points lower in SMV than you. Imagine he did exactly what your wife did by giving a bratty response, then scoffing when you ignored him.

How would you have handled it?

You probably wouldn't have fucking cared or even acknowledged the low-key shitty behavior.

Now lets say he were spouting off on some bullshit, being blatantly disrespectful, talking about you as if you weren't good enough.

Would you blow up, telling him off, getting into a shouting match with this literal lesser being?

I imagine not. Why? Because he's literally a lesser being. I imagine a response along the lines of "you can start acting right, or you can start packing your bags. Your choice - you're not special."

*now swap this objectively lesser being out with your wife.

This is how you nuke things. You don't get butthurt, you don't feel challenged, you aren't upset. You are dismissively and correctly putting this lesser being in their place, and doing so in a manner that shows you care more about your mental peace than your fucking ego.

Edit: added "you're not special" because bitches fuckin hate feeling like they're not special, but it's also not overtly disrespectful... as in, you say it and can save face. Meant to add this the first time.

cre4mpuffmyf4ce · 2024-04-18T04:09:26+00:00

That’s fucked up she’d do that infront of the kids. I’d never pick a partner that wasn’t on the same page in terms of values with kids. That would absolutely not stand with me.

I’d probably handle it differently than you, crack jokes and make fun of her, keep focus on kid, mommy thinks she knows things she’s clearly wrong about, maybe she needs to go back to grade 2, keep focus on kid, and if she yells and totally explodes I’d bring kid into a separate room and Continue the convo as if that didn’t even happen, show kid it doesn’t phase you because they will take emotional and reactive queues from you. And if you do all that it shows you held attention in kid despite bitchy wife.

And then after all done, later that night behind close doors, I would unleash unbridled rage on the bitch. I can’t see myself being with someone like that though. That’s a non-negotiable for me

Chard-Far · 2024-04-18T08:25:02+00:00

Jesus you don't get it. So your wife acted bratty and instead of saying '"I'll deal with you later" and spank her and then fuck her like daddy would you basically rage quit

You suck. Zero tingles. Zero control of the situation. Zero attraction. And you yelled in front of your kid like a retard.

deerstfu · 2024-04-18T15:09:48+00:00

What the fuck am I missing?

Frame

Should I have ignored the scoff?

Yes

Made fun of it?

If you can, without getting emotional. So no.

Should I initially ignore, then pull her aside and have a conversation about expectations?

You think she doesn't know this is bad behavior? You should be having 0 "conversations" about her behavior right now. Every time you do, you 1) tell her nothing she doesn't already know. 2) give her a chance to rationalize why being a bitch is fine and 3) demonstrate that you aren't really going to defend your boundaries when she ignores you.

Don't worry too much about this specific situation. For now, work on controlling your anger. As soon as you lose control, you've lost. Shut up and ignore her until you can interact in frame, as a man in control of himself and his emotions, who is amused, indifferent or mildly disappointed by her actions. Like a patient parent.

This is all explicitly detailed in the sidebar. Stfu and read hard. Redo Steel's guide with the links and top posts in addition to the books. Rian stone's youtube videos help with the books if you're extra thick.

At a minimum, don't yell in front of your kids. Duh.

GasOrdinary1237 · 2024-04-18T03:19:01+00:00

You both seem to have massive egos and are highly insecure. It’s a relationship based on winning and not feeling inferior to the other. That’s not healthy and your kids can probably feel that.

Also, do you do this constant petty bickering right in front of your kids? The back and forth sarcasm and passive aggression towards each other is going to do major damage. You feed into her bullshit and it’s not healthy.

Arghu40 · 2024-04-18T04:22:01+00:00

All of this BS in your post will be put aside on my end, as the others have already addressed it.

Question: As a 44 year old man, are you able to pull women in their 20s? I'm being serious here.

I recently entered my 40s and I'm in the best shape physically and mentally in my life. You on the other hand, who is only a handful of years older than me, don't seem to have made any progress on your mental frame. You keep beating your head against the wall here. Do you want permission to leave your wife? Okay, fuck it. Permission granted. Before then though, go out and try and date to see if you can build up a dating rotation for post-divorce. You don't need permission to live your life on the terms that you see fit.

redcopperhead · 2024-04-18T13:20:30+00:00

Wait. You’re attempting to lead your family but as soon as the first mate challenges you you leave the ship? Wtf

2wo2wo3hree · 2024-04-18T12:54:56+00:00

You can’t nuke without the proper launch codes. You’ll blow yourself up.

Launch Code: Lift. Sidebar. STFU.

Flaky-Daikon-6611 · 2024-04-18T16:47:49+00:00

Ah the dreaded “spooling with more mouth noises” to trigger a man’s amygdala; every woman’s power move. I learned the hard way to do what BecommingABetterMan1 said and deal with her like a bratty teenager instead of acting out emotionally. She has confessed that she gets “the tingles” when I do this and that sometimes her bratty behavior is actually foreplay. We have done some professor/schoolgirl roll play in the bedroom that prepares a framework for dealing with “disrespectful” bratty behavior outside the bedroom. Another technique that helps me tame the “mouth noises” is Heartiste’s Birthday Cat meme. I “buffalo” her hamster into confused paralysis with a single meaningless message or meme; buffer overflow. For me, the point of these techniques is to guard my mental peace by denying her inner brat access to my ego. I believe the RP adepts call it “game”. I have a daily mantra to never stop gaming my wife and to make a docile pet out of her hamster.

MandingoMaasai · 2024-04-23T03:25:42+00:00

Why are you still with her? Sex? Out of the question. Challenges and denigrates your parenting. Obliterated your standard of living with her cunt attitude. Zero hopes of improving the situation.

What are you doing staying with her? What excuse have you clang to, rationalising this horrible existence?

MandingoMaasai · 2024-04-23T03:25:48+00:00

Why are you still with her? Sex? Out of the question. Challenges and denigrates your parenting. Obliterated your standard of living with her cunt attitude. Zero hopes of improving the situation.

What are you doing staying with her? What excuse have you clang to, rationalising this horrible existence?

PillUpAss · 2024-04-18T03:45:48+00:00

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Title	Disrespect at the dinner table.
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Date	April 18, 2024 2:44 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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