Please don’t try to tell me that it’s all my fault that Mr. Right didn’t come along when I wanted him to.

gentle_lemon · 2024-04-19T20:04:59+00:00

Man, that’s quite the wall of text. Lemme try to distill it down for ya’ll: I was too picky when I was younger, didn’t take care of myself, and now I’m on the road to Copeville: population 1.

Pahwah · 2024-04-19T20:07:38+00:00

Any woman can get a man, men are very easy to please. Its not that they didn't come along, its just that she didn't notice when they did. And now it too late, the tipping point has been passed.

IceCorrect · 2024-04-19T20:10:09+00:00

How women who is "traditional" be single at age 39? Beacuse she isn't, that's why she listen to modern women and had her 304 phase in her 20s. Traditional women don't have that phase they date to marry not date to "explore my sexuality"

She complain that traditional women are not valued by society, but she would never admit which part of society tell this, even though she said in her first sentence who advice her to be modern women.

Siddyf · 2024-04-19T20:16:38+00:00

260 lbs @ 5’2, what a sturdy cross.

notthefuzz99 · 2024-04-19T20:14:51+00:00

I wonder how many women a severely obese man could meet in a two-year period. My guess is it would be far less than 20 to 30

the_fozzy_one · 2024-04-19T21:28:13+00:00

A 260lb, 39 year-old woman is still looking for a physically fit man who "makes a good living" 😂. You can't make this stuff up. Women are so hardwired on this stuff I don't think they can unlearn the programming. It has to be beaten (metaphorically) out of them by society from a young age for most women to have any hope of making prudent mating choices it seems.

AtkinsCatkins · 2024-04-19T20:23:25+00:00

well to be fair she does take ownership that she considers herself too "Low value" to find what she is wanting, which is fair enough.

her problem is she doesn't seem to realise that she is expecting a partner to be both fit/handsome and also good character and a provider, while she accepts she is not beautiful but "makes it up in other areas"

so one has to ask "what are these other areas that you make it up in, which wont be present in the potential partner you seek?"

because if she says something like "kindness" or similar, i bet that is also a prerequisite of her potential suitor too so from his POV she doesn't actually represent a good partner.

she is not beyond hope though, she seems to be knocking on the door of self awareness, and i hope she finds the truth and makes positive realistic changes.

relationships are ultimately equal trades, i trade you my specialisations (which are security, protection, stability and attractiveness) and you give me an equal value in yoru specialisations (which are kindness, compassion, emotional support, and attractiveness), the instant you think you dont have to provide your equal value, you will have a problem.

Many women try and coast on physical beauty, a value that ultimately declines with time and familarity, of course you can substitute it with character, and actually be considered "More attractive" by having a highly pleasant supportive personality, so that given the choice men would rather be with you than someone considered more asthetically pleasing.

but this woman seems to be of the opinion that the universe owes her a quality match without her having to provide the "sum value" of her partner in other areas of her character/offerings.

or put simply, if you lack in one attribute (like physical beauty) you can compensate with character and other areas, but the sum total will be the same. you have to be the same level of attractiveness as the partner you are desiring.

Constant_Degree776 · 2024-04-19T23:30:21+00:00

She still have hope of having a family at 39, it's kinda sad how delusional females are.

fromthecrypt8 · 2024-04-19T22:18:58+00:00

«I know most men don’t want someone who weighs the same as an adult seal.» Touché, honey!

SnakeEyeskid · 2024-04-19T22:28:45+00:00

Oh I bet Mr Right felt the earth shaking and ran whenever she go even remotely close. Got to avoid her gravity field though.

Overkillengine · 2024-04-20T02:14:36+00:00

She has allowed her reach to exceed her grasp, except when it comes to the buffet table apparently.

She let herself get old.
She let herself get fat.
I'm going to be blunt - she let herself get scarred by acne too. It's hugely influenced by diet, hygiene, and general health. (I'm older than her and I still get a breakout whenever I let myself eat junk food so I avoid that shit)
She let herself believe that she had unlimited time and options, despite society being filled with examples otherwise.

She still got matches despite all this. Women's dating woes are self inflicted.

AmbitiousHornet · 2024-04-21T12:13:56+00:00

Ugly seal seeking Prince Charming laments her life goals failure.

Proper_Frosting_6693 · 2024-04-20T13:42:50+00:00

Land whale 🐳 is gutted Chad doesn’t want her

Rish83 · 2024-04-20T14:46:42+00:00

This is one of the reason I hate talking to women.. The walls & walls of blabbering text with contradictory statements..

TwizzlersSourz · 2024-04-21T13:58:51+00:00

She could have walked into any Catholic Church and married a guy even with her flaws.

Title	Please don’t try to tell me that it’s all my fault that Mr. Right didn’t come along when I wanted him to.
Author	polishknightusa
Upvotes	100
Comments	51
Date	April 19, 2024 7:42 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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