This post is for those of you who have been cheated on.

Some of you are wondering why your wife or soon to be ex wife is being so nasty.

The Bible speaks about not being able to serve two masters. Meaning God and Money. It says that you will love one and hate the other.

This is also true of your cheating spouse. The reason why she is so nasty is because she cannot be nice to you and carry on her affair or love interest. She will naturally hate the one thing keeping her from the other.

Guess what? You are a direct reminder that she cannot have both. It's impossible.

Naturally, you will get the hate and nasty.

 

So the next thing you will ask yourself or others. What did I do wrong? That answer is very simple. Nothing. You didn't do anything wrong that led to her infidelity. In fact, in your own way you probably did everything right trying to placate her behaviors. Unknowingly, of course. This is a natural process as well. While she is sleeping around and having a jolly ole time. You are the product of her hate. Nothing you do will ever be good enough. This is called projection. She is shining a light on you in order to not have to look at herself. And like the good husband you are........you try harder to please her.

 

There are 3 things detrimental to marriage. In no order. Loss of a spouse. Loss of a child. Infidelity.

It is damn near impossibly once she has cheated that things will ever be the same. Most likely, it is over. You'll go through stages of shock, anger, denial, sadness, and eventually acceptance.

Just remember that since she cheated......the person you once knew is gone. Forever. She's never coming back. Once you understand this the sooner you can make progress on the stages you'll walk out.

This was never about you. What you could or couldn't have done better. This was always about her. Not being content with things.

 

Most never are content. That has nothing to do with you and "making her happy". It's solely on her.

 

Hang on though. I'm here to tell you that there is hope. I gave an update not long ago about being finalized for 3 years now. I went through the whole gambit of being cheated on. It was long process that now leaves me with NO regrets. Zero. Check it out if you would like to see there is hope and things can and will get better. One day at a time. Slowly but surely.

I don't think this sub will let me hot link but search for - Lessons from the other side....(3 year update) -

I share where I am now and where I've come from. All the best!