Unsure whether to chase or wait

DaygameCode · 2024-06-14T12:24:11+00:00

Saying, “I miss you” like some dude suggested to a girl you don’t know at all (a girl you know for a day) is the most insincere and most needy move you could imagine.

The problem here you are making is that you are waiting for her to give you availability while you wait to see how you can adapt to her schedule. Don’t do that.

your job is to invite her to things that sound exciting once a week and if she doesn’t join, her loss she is the one missing out. You should invite her to things you are going to do with or without her to not lose your frame.

You need to position yourself as the cool guy who has a fun/exciting lifestyle and you are simply inviting her to be part of it.

You dont wanna position yourself as the guy who has nothing going on in his life, and as a result he is waiting for a woman to free up her schedule to give him some attention so he finally have something exciting going on for once thanks to that woman.

So, asking her when she is free or telling her that you are free on x day, is not a good move. If you are free on x day you are communicating to her that you if she doesn’t accept going out with you that specific day, then you will sit at home doing nothing other than drinking beer watching the Tv.

You never wanna give the image that you are free. Instead you should give the image that you are always busy in the sense that you always have cool/fun/interesting things going on, and you don’t mind women or men tagging along, inviting them to join.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-06-14T12:43:06+00:00

Dude, she is not interested. If she was she would be at least all over you in text. What is she, a fucking neurosurgeon? Even those dont do 14 hour days day in and day out.

God, men are so god damn stupid. A chick shows a micro interest for a second and they behave like god damn lapdogs for next several years.

Move on. If she reaches out to go out and it matches your schedule, say yes. Otherwise say you are busy and offer alternative day/time. Dont pay for her drinks/food.

P.s. dated a neurosurgery resident briefly. Her text was "i am super busy in this rotation for next two weeks. My schedule is shit. I will text you when i am off and come over but i have to crash at your place before the next shift after". That was the morning after we met.

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-06-14T14:16:45+00:00

First of all - Non . You neither Chase nor wait (yea you can do both - cool hu)

The MAX time you wait is 48 h. Investment starts diminishing at rapid speeds after .(Which can be a good thing IF you had a fight or something)

Send something NOT needy - like a dumb meme you like it doesn’t have to be funny at all .

You are allowed to 8x triple text.

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-06-14T14:23:49+00:00

I mean you have her a chance? What more do you want?

Theverybest92 · 2024-06-14T19:21:30+00:00

Bro next time you are free invite her out. Try this a couple times within the month. If all efforts fail she clearly does not have time for you.

CrazyRepulsive8244 · 2024-06-14T22:20:35+00:00

Don't say anything. She's already interested. Anything you do now will lower it. You're thinking in days, you need to start thinking weeks with women.

If your game was good enough, theoretically, every women would be days. But she sounds older, and gave you a valid excuse. So are you just gonna ignore that? She literally told you what to do.

Anything you do now sends a BAD MESSAGE. if she can't meet you because she's busy what's gonna be the result? A nice text convo about nothing? More dreaming of a future date? You'd have more to talk about if you just said nothing now.

Wait 7 days from now, or the closest to that that you have a day off/ is on a weekend, and then hit her up.

'Hey how's it been? I'm going to soandso at 8, come join me.'

Ideally you send this the day of around 12 or whatever so she can cancel other plans.

And either she will accept or you will smoothly gain Intel on how to proceed. And if she messages before that even better.

No_Hat9118 · 2024-06-14T11:02:31+00:00

If u need up having to double text, write “ok whatever, take care”. Polite double texts are suicide

EstablishmentIcy7559 · 2024-06-14T10:53:55+00:00

Waiting for those "she isnt interested" comments lmao

Just tell her you miss her, think about it, which of our parents played toxic mind games in their days?

I have been watching those tiktok "dating strategies" and it seems the meta-game is to ignore the other person and torture yourself mentally. Sure, its going to attract certain type of girls (if you enjoy a RS where you cant show too much affection coz thats not alpha)

Im a trad guy, enjoy showing affection and receiving it.

Idk bro, i rather we be honest and if she accepts your "neediness" then she is the right one. I cant imagine faking it in a RS for years!

Jabrark1998 · 2024-06-14T10:51:36+00:00

I mean my instinct is just, if I wanna talk to her, I'mma just text her, get a temp check, purpose a date myself if she doesn't respond the first day. But I'm also no expert myself, I'll defer to the brotherhood.

EDIT: I accept the downvote of shame, even though the replies kinda agreed with me. T_T

Title	Unsure whether to chase or wait
Author	Darl26061209
Upvotes	8
Comments	18
Date	June 14, 2024 10:45 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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