I’m not sure if I’m doing this right. I need some honest advice but put urself in my position. I was married for 13 years. Never ever cheated, I was the solo breadwinner for 11 years while she stayed home taking care of my two children. I did catch her sending her pics (no nudity) to a few looser abroad but I let it go bcs her family got involved and she admitted to her mistakes and I was convinced that it was just a mistake therefore I let that one go. This was when we were about 8 years of marriage. Fast forward, once we hit our 13th anniversary she just felt like she’s not important to me anymore which isn’t true and asked for divorce. Yes we’ve had plenty of arguments and I still feel terrible remembering that she sent pics to other men perhaps was part of it, but I kept it moving. We have two kids 14 and 8 . At the time of divorce she wanted to give me full custody of my kids bcs she wanted to travel back to her home country and not deal with kids, she wanted to let me have my retirement accounts, bank accounts, my car, basically whatever was under my name and I let her have her account, her car and she doesn’t believe in retirement accounts so nothing there. I hired an uncontested attorney to write everything properly bcs we weren’t fighting about anything and it was her wish to do all this. I didn’t want to go through it. The house I paid for during our marriage was also under my name and paid for no mortgage, she asked for 65k but finally we agreed on 45k and she let me have the house on paper and everything had been signed by the judge since 02/15/23.she had a plan to leave but changed her mind, then she told me she’ll rent an apartment. Well, she didn’t do that either. She continues to live with us in my house and I didn’t say anything bcs she watches the girls. She does work and makes 35k annually. I make 35k plus every 3 months. Going back to the divorce, where I live the judge gives both parties 31 days and after signing , notarizing and especially the judge’s signature, asset division is final but anything related to taking care of the children etc could always end up readjusting or changing etc. However, according to the lawyer asset allocation is final upon signing of the judge. He also said even changing anything regarding the child custody etc is a very expensive thing. I did not hide anything on paper and wrote down allllll my accounts but the value wasn’t asked and the judge never asked for anything since this was uncontested. Ladies and gentleman, I own assets and a lot of them. I’ve been a positive and a hard worker all my life and understand money. I believe of a bright future and have been always DCAing into my portfolio . She knows that she made a mistake of a life time but still continues to say that she doesn’t want anything from me. But I’m not sure right there. I’m sorry I’m all over trying to explain. So I’m aware of my state laws in Missouri. Common law practice is Not recognized. According to the lawyer that did the paperwork we are just in a relationship. She has been living with us rent free. She doesn’t pay me any rent, she doesn’t pay any of my utilities etc and only pays for her car insurance since it’s her car. By the way it was my car but I gave it to her. I’m still trying to be together for the sake of my daughters I think and I have nobody watching them while I’m at work bcs my immediate family members won’t help and it’s not their responsibility. She knows my situation with my family we don’t even talk. We have been cohabiting and we also have been having sex together. But I’m only looking at it as a relationship. Tonight I accidentally looked at her phone bcs it wasn’t locked and she grabbed it from my hand and didn’t let me see anything. I just told her that she can look at mine right now because I have nothing to hide and she started saying things like u rushed just to get the signature done and I don’t want u to look at my phone bla bla. She was bringing back the past and tried to blame me. I wasn’t the one to ask for anything it was all her. I’m not going to be able to be married to her anymore bcs I’m having trouble trusting her. I just told her that plenty of ppl live an honest relationship together without the signature she was talking about and both of us should not hide anything from one another. But I felt like she was hiding something and I don’t know how to deal with this time. My problem is my kids, I’m trying to figure out how and where to take my kids while working if she decides to leave bcs she has all the right to say it’s not my problem since I have full custody. This would’ve been very easy if kids weren’t evolved and if she hadn’t thrown all the responsibilities on my shoulders. But I guess that I shouldn’t complain bcs a lot of ppl fight for years over child custody. I don’t know how this is ending but she was denial that there was anything on her phone and just doesn’t want me to see it. I’m not sure that I can buy that. I’m sorry for the long story of my life. Just wanted to hear others thoughts bcs I’m lost.