Trying to imagine the relationship with the ex after divorce.

CrazySanta7 · 2024-08-18T12:54:28+00:00

No. If your kids want to get her something, then buy it. You don't. She will have a new man at some point, and that would just be odd. You are a co-parent at that point.

Mangrove43 · 2024-08-18T10:56:05+00:00

Mine went all greedy and alienating. Zero contact.

Mangrove43 · 2024-08-18T10:55:57+00:00

Mine went all greedy and alienating. Zero contact.

Is0prene · 2024-08-18T10:37:22+00:00

It was easy for me. She moved onto another guy so fast the ink hadn't even dried on the decree yet. Married 3 months later. So I simply said she's his problem now and haven't given her one more dime than the decree has made me.

If your question is really, do you still remain friends after divorce? My answer is no. And everyone on her side of the family that she constantly bitched about me to behind my back is now dead to me as well.

As Arya Stark says in Game of thrones, "Rip them all out, Root and Stem."

I have never been at so much peace.

HoneydewLeading7337 · 2024-08-18T03:20:07+00:00

You facilitate the kids getting her gifts. You do not.

I haven't had a conversation with my EX in about 2 years. All communication regards the kids and happens almost exclusively via email or text.

She would prefer we were on better terms. I would prefer she not be a cum-for-brains slut.

This is the compromise.

SnooDucks2052 · 2024-08-17T22:35:58+00:00

Give the kids a budget to spend on gifts. You just sign the card.

Bretweir_jerky · 2024-08-17T20:33:29+00:00

As others have mentioned your looking way beyond the present where your head needs to be. With that being said, I’ve dated a few women who had post divorce relationships like this. Ex husband comes over for dinner 4 nights a week, has her do his laundry still, some have had vacations with the ex. To each their own but that’s not for me. I see divorce as a problem and a plague on modern relationships and families. I will not willingly go along with all the new “ticktock therapist” jargon and validation to keep promoting this dual mating strategy of women. It’s wrong. It destroys families and future generations and they’re being forced to fed a diet of it from social media daily. Nope

Bermnerfs · 2024-08-17T17:38:22+00:00

I think you're looking way too far ahead. That's something you worry about way down the road. For now you should be present and focusing on the current feelings and events you're facing now.

Title	Trying to imagine the relationship with the ex after divorce.
Author	Passive_Tuna
Upvotes	4
Comments	8
Date	August 17, 2024 2:58 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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