I suck at attracting

norwegiandoggo · 2024-09-05T14:22:13+00:00

To make your sexual or romantic intentions known without potentially coming across as creepy is impossible. That's why you don't do it, because you're too afraid of how you come across. You have to tell yourself "fuck it" and have the courage to be disliked. Make your intentions known. Some will respond positively, and some will respond negatively and think that you're a creep. This "magical way to hit on women that won't creep any women out" doesn't exist.

offinthewoods10 · 2024-09-05T16:45:16+00:00

Ok if you make eye contact with a girl, hold it for a second and see what she does.

If she smiles, smile back. If you are interested in her go and talk to her, she should be at least receptive to you talking to her.

Can you fuck it up? Yes, but that will be something you can fix with practice and skill.

Go in with the thought that you two are already friends or partners, but she doesn’t know it yet. It will give you an air of confidence and warmth.

Get some general information about her but mainly keep the conversation going with flirty banter. Tease her on the things she says to you, and make her laugh.

Escalate the tension with touch. (Something I need to work on and others can speak more about)

Worried-One2399 · 2024-09-05T21:10:09+00:00

The biggest learning lesson I had to learn was to stop being insecure and start being outlandish. The more u make other people happy, the more you will make yourself happy.

Compliments are SOOOOO good. Especially when u compliment a woman. Don’t be afraid, the early bird gets the worm. Discipline is so important, go down a busy street talk to strangers.

Tell them “hey I like your hat” or “hey ur shoes really compliment your outfit”

I SWEAR, they will smile from ear to ear & u will 2. Watch it transform your mind, n brain

PS. You don’t suck @ anything, truth is WE ALL SUCK @ ANYTHING/EVERYTHING if we don’t practice what we choose to practice!

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-09-05T16:39:26+00:00

It’s a cognitive dissonance, basically. Just forget for a second that you’re handsome and start deviating from your regular behavior when you talk to them. Don’t get into that weird friend zone.

yourcousinrafa · 2024-09-05T22:22:47+00:00

There's nothing creepy about expressing romantic interest or flirting as long as it's respectful and authentic. When a girl approaches you or smiles at you, do you immediately think she's creepy? Probably not, unless she really is, so same thing for guys. No one can think you're creepy if you leave them better than you found them, it's impossible :)

rodrigo4431 · 2024-09-05T14:00:54+00:00

Intense eye contact first and then teasing in a flirty way i like to act like if they are the ones talking sexual by misunderstanding what they are saying if that makes sense

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-09-05T16:10:30+00:00

I think my issue is how to make it seem like I’m interested sexually or romantically without making it creepy any help would be appreciated

The way our brains work - is that they calculate a %chance and if that chance is lower than the norm (we have made for ourselves) we find it impossible - even though it is plausible just a lower %.

Example: I had reached a 80% open +hook (talking in a sexy way).

Then whenever I saw something that had even a slight chance of not working I would get anxiety. (Cuz 80% is basically guarantied) that is the first time I had Anxiety in 15 years of gaming.

So you basically have 2 choices to fix it:

1) the normal method - you go up and risk it. Till your brain accepts the new norm.

Or The idiot method of - try to look like a creep. So the norm will be supper low (It doesn’t work cuz when you are normal you will rase the bar again)

2) Repeat in your head - but what If I don’t look creepy - and think of what might motivate you to do it.

Like sex or what have you.

Or find another way to internalise that “shit happens”.

At the end of the day the chance of you looking creepy is supper small (unless you are some type of social retard). Now some will not like you, some will love you, some won’t give a single fuck you exist , some will find you creepy, some will find you charming.

At the end of the day - there will always be a chance someone doesn’t like you. There is no magic way to fix that.

Trepanndia · 2024-09-06T11:51:51+00:00

Just go up and talk to them but NO SMALL TALK.

epimpstyle · 2024-09-05T15:03:41+00:00

how to make it seem like I'm interested sexually or romantically without making it creepy

You are not alone in thinking of this idea and actually there is already an answer to this, you need just the basic concepts: IOI, Kino and compliance tests

1 - You need to look for IOI signs (if all goes well .... go to step two)

2 - KINO and compliance tests

If you ignore the IOI and start with step 2, it is creepy because it makes no sense to escalate if the woman is not interested in you. If she is already interested in you, then you need to escalate by testing her compliance level and KINO - (these two are done simultaneously).

Girls are not stupid, they will know what is going on when you touch them and involve them in different activities, there is no need to explicitly tell them what you want unless she is really a bimbo (in 99% of the cases they are not).

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-09-06T17:42:12+00:00

Well as long as you telegraph interest some woman is going to find it creepy. Very few in fact.

Talk to her for a bit and then say I think you and I had a very nice conversation. I'd love to follow up on this. I think you and I should go on date.

ak4790 · 2024-09-08T08:42:20+00:00

Women only find it creepy if they aren't attracted to u. If u express ur interest and they find u attractive, then she will feel interest as well. Emotions and desire transfers from one person to the other.

rzerx · 2024-09-05T15:48:21+00:00

Looks will only take you so far amigo. They help don't get me wrong, but they won't do all the gaming for you under any real with any female if that's all you got to offer them. That's where all that verbal game has to come in cuz females are more impressed with what you say than how you look.

Looks won't pay the rent. Females want a man who can provide and protect. Ever notice that there are ugly ass mofos out there who get Fina ass women? That's cuz they offer something far more valuable than looks. Looks won't provide and definitely won't protect.

Title	I suck at attracting
Author	jaybee_the_Kumo
Upvotes	74
Comments	32
Date	September 5, 2024 1:47 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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