TLDR: There's no final court date in sight and I want to hear advice as to how I (56M) might be able to compel her (53F) to cooperate with a home sale (she's there; I got an apartment). We've been separated for just over a year (haven't set on eyes on her since 9/29/23). I filed 12/19/23).

The mortgage (and all related) is only in my name but we've been married 36 years. There are no minor children. I am fine with splitting the net proceeds with her post-sale but, while neither of us are interested in reconciliation, she's dragging out the process for lifestyle/financial benefit. She's not cooperating on ANY level (including mediation) and continues to refer to the house as hers although strictly on paper, she's not mentioned anywhere. I even almost lost homeowners insurance when the agent's staff set up my renter's policy, indicating I didn't live in the house anymore (the underwriter flagged it). Additionally, I'm paying for both the mortgage, HOA dues, utilities, rent for me, utilities for me... out of my individual checking account/paycheck because she overdrafted the joint checking multiple times just before the mortgage payment was scheduled. Believe it or not, I'm actually saving money that way (I stopped direct deposit and covering overdrafts when the necessary bills were all moved to my account).

There's plenty more detail but hit me with experience and ideas please. Thanks in advance.