Did I do something wrong by telling her I never went on a date?

KoleSekor · 2024-11-07T20:16:11+00:00

Yes that was a major mistake. Women hear that no one else has ever wanted you and see that as a huge red flag. Women want to date a man whom many other women also wish to date... not a man with 0 options.

appolonysian · 2024-11-07T20:29:04+00:00

Think about it like marketing: if people are into a product, others are likely going to find it valuable as well. In this scenario, you are the product and she was asking “how many people are into you?” to which you essentially replied, “none.”

Don’t worry though. Just live and learn.

ryukingu · 2024-11-07T20:27:47+00:00

Don’t ever think too much about these interactions, especially from dating apps. It’ll drive you crazy and you’ll never get an explanation

Trip_seize · 2024-11-07T21:09:24+00:00

She asked what would be your ideal date NOT whether you've been on a date before. There is a difference.

Try to stay in the moment and answer the question they actually ask rather than the question you THINK you heard or that they might ask.

I'm fact, if you've never been in a date but fantasised about going on one, that would be the time to have fun and create a scenario that YOU would actually enjoy. Remember, this is supposed to be fun for YOU too!

Charge36 · 2024-11-07T21:50:59+00:00

All she asked was what you wanted to do on a date. You didn't need to volunteer that you've never been on one.

liftingnstuff · 2024-11-07T20:20:46+00:00

You responded in a way that has very little (if any) upside for you with very big potential downside when you could have just thought of an idea for an ideal first date. When you guys started talking about dates and she asks this question she is looking for you to lead and setup your first date.

Cherry-Bandit · 2024-11-07T20:30:58+00:00

Should’ve done something like “What, and spoil the surprise? Anyway, I have a few places I’ve wanted to check around town. Hbu?”

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-11-08T00:52:32+00:00

How would you feel if a girl told you she has slept with 200 guys?

Women feel that exact same ick factor when you tell them or even hint at lack of experience.

Women's sexual value decreases with experience, men's increases with experience. I hope that makes sense.

Squali_squal · 2024-11-08T10:31:57+00:00

All you had to say was what WOULD be an ideal date for you.

Squali_squal · 2024-11-08T10:32:15+00:00

Do not self deprecate early.

Squali_squal · 2024-11-08T10:36:01+00:00

Next time you answer with "hot air balloon." No explanation, no lol, no smile emoji.

HunterZolomon2 · 2024-11-08T23:47:33+00:00

You're unlikely to get much success on a dating app, I'm a good looking 6'4" muscular guy and even I struggle with those apps so I don't use them. It's not what you said that was the issue, it's the fact she has never met you, and the fact it's 80% men for 20% of women, so you're at a major disadvantage. There will always be men who are better looking than you but if you cold approach, you can override that, because real life approaches remain in a person's brain for far longer than a dating profile on an app. A successful cold approach where the girl responds positively and gives you her number will rank far higher in her mind than the hot strangers that she recently matched with on dating apps, because the guy she met in person was real and trustworthy, while the ones she met online may not be.

That's the issue with dating apps. Do they work? Sure for some people, but it's an uphill battle for most guys, whereas in real life, you're always at a big advantage because if it didn't work out, then it never would have worked out even on dating apps. But oftentimes, the opposite is wrong, if a girl swiped left or unmatched you, she might have liked you better in person.

shroooomology · 2024-11-08T02:06:05+00:00

Personally. The suggestion of a coffee date would’ve made me air

NoMoassNeverWas · 2024-11-08T10:10:27+00:00

Ideal first date is cafe or wine tasting.

hal64 · 2024-11-08T16:51:40+00:00

We started talking about dates and she asked my what would me my ideal first date. I responded with honesty saying I never actually been on a date

Honestly is the right masculine date. Your answer is correct here.

and as cliche as it sounds I proposed that we do a coffee date

Coffee date are the most boring thing ever. That's where you went wrong. You had the opportunity to double down on her questions you give her your ideal first date and this would be your first " first date". Go for it make it special and interesting ! Boring isn't allowed !!!

Title	Did I do something wrong by telling her I never went on a date?
Author	Mrlabx02
Upvotes	41
Comments	46
Date	November 7, 2024 8:10 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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