"people who care about the past are insecure, incels, mysoginysts, controlling, bla bla bla" unless they are being hypocritical, be it a dude with massive partner history berating women with massive histories too, getting offended about someones preference or boundary for people with modest past is a massive redflag it denotes massive narcissism, double standards and cognitive dissonance, specially the women, they are the same kind of women who berate and condemn a dude for not finding someone like lizzo attractive but then take offense when they re told "you look just like lizzo", exposing how they re just virtue signalling and/or acting out of insecurity.

the only reason you need to reject someone is that you aint feeling it, doesnt matter why as arbitrary as it is, be it their past, or porn consumption, whatever, since the topic is partner history im gonna focus on men because men get the most slack for it, is ironic how a lot of women turn into total incels when this topic is brought up, yet nobody cares when women reject men for having paid for escorts in the past, or having bisexual experiences, both genders have their boundaries regarding a partner's past, and theres no double standard there, the only reason why people say it doesnt matters for men is because most women dont seem to care, other than that nothing obliges the individual woman to date men with massive counts if they dont want to, if they day tomorrow the majority of women started rejecting men for their count everyone would start saying it matters for men too. So really theres absolutely no objective reason to justify the amount of vitrol and outrage many people throw whenever someone has a preferences regarding someone's past, is absurd.

rejecting someone over their past is way less shallow than doing it over their looks, yet nobody cares but when it is over a persons past suddenly it is out of bounds (particularly when a man does it) , kinda revealing what the actual agenda behind all that self-righteous preaching is.