Substantial aspects of patriarchy are upheld by other / certain women. This is disproportionately tolerated by women as a whole, with blame often flipped back to men unreasonably.

Before anything: men still are the sole cause of many major risks and harms to women, and women almost universally identify and criticize us as the source.

However, certain issues are not for men to solve - two examples are beauty standards and the extreme proliferation of sexual and pornographic content.

There’s some cognitive dissonance on beauty standards. Tbh seems based on convenience whether women pursue beauty to impress men or for themselves. Either way, it’s intellectually dishonest to say men should or even can help dismantle this. Women aren’t obligated to pursue men and as adults with agency, may choose to appease the male gaze. You can’t complain about this choice or the related impact to daring success. Just as men can’t whine about how it’s so expensive buy a table at a club or that they’re coerced into it bc it gets women’s attention.

Men aren’t the influencers pushing beauty products, cosmetic surgeries, overedited photos etc on social media. In fact the latest trends around BBLs, lip injections are quite off putting and clearly just an aesthetic appreciated among women. How women conform on average or what’s needed to be “exceptional” emerge from women’s choices as a whole. “Pick me” has become a common enough term, so use it for the women that normalize needing makeup at work, etc.

On porn - no argument that consumption deteriorates mental and emotional health in context of being a partner. Just like cigarettes for example deteriorate physical health. People should avoid being a customer for sure, but it’s insane to glance over the dealers of addictive products that profit from harm at the individuals and societal level. Not to mention having the financial incentive to gaslight and avoid responsibility.

If you wish you could find a partner that doesn’t follow half naked women on social media or doesn’t like women’s thirst traps, acknowledge that the dynamic includes a woman posting to entertain thirsty dudes.

Women are substantially more represented in hook up culture than men as well. While hook up culture isn’t broadly considered problematic by women (yet?), the commentary about it manages to present men as the driver.

If women’s consensus has reached Kool-Aid levels of “choice” feminism and the above is perpetuated, the rhetoric against men is laughable as is expecting progress. Women that make a career out of sex work or pushing insecurities as influencers don’t exist in a vacuum. The so-called empowerment they hide behind hampers liberation and is a farce at best, intentional hypocrisy at worst.