How do I get over my fear of talking to girls?

anonymoushandbalance · 2025-01-31T19:21:26+00:00

Exposure therapy - go out there and go get rejected

SnooHesitations4922 · 2025-01-31T20:18:06+00:00

You freeze up because you aren't confident in your social ability and don't want to be seen as "weird".

As someone on the spectrum, I can tell you that free will is more powerful than your condition, you just need to overtly practice what comes naturally for neurotypical people.

Prioritize slowing down and steadying your speech cadence and refraining from sudden fidgety movements and vocal tone shifts and having relaxed eye contact. Doing that also relaxes you and slows down your mind enough to open your instincts and be a good listener.

Do this in the mirror if you have to, then move on to friends and family. As your confidence increases have conversations with acquaintances then move onto strangers, including women. The important thing is to talk to the women exactly how you would talk to anyone else without any ulterior motive.

It is crazy how far you can get with a woman with just regular conversation.They will often flirt with you first so you know they chose you and not the other way around. 90% of guys talk to them with "try hard" energy like they are a prize hence property.

EquinosX · 2025-01-31T19:21:53+00:00

By talking to them. There are no shortcuts

Affectionate_Sky960 · 2025-02-01T04:56:22+00:00

Bud the last thing you should be doing is approaching women and gettting knocked down more . It will cause you more hurt and self esteem problems .find a hobby and let right women come to you . Actively chasing will lead to disappointment and will crush you . I did years of cold approaching and let me tell after every rejection it does not get better but it gets worse due to reinforcement don’t end up like me I have lots of work to do build myself up back . God bless

ArmitageShanks69 · 2025-02-01T11:36:04+00:00

"18"M and been isolated "my whole life"...

Correction: "18M and been isolated thus far".

You're still a baby.

Basic-Parfait3122 · 2025-02-01T16:17:44+00:00

Get used to the sight of pussy. So stare at yourself whenever you look into a mirror.

Mysterious_Willow985 · 2025-02-03T03:09:17+00:00

Desexualise them.Imagine how it is for them they are more beautiful than us but beauty isn’t power they can’t physically hurt us, we are much bigger & more powerful than them.I understand you’re phased by their beauty but it’s actually scary for them🫶🏻.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2025-01-31T19:44:41+00:00

I wrote a post about that a while ago. It's at the top of my profile.

genericriffs · 2025-01-31T19:51:07+00:00

Relax bro, you’re only 18. Very very rarely is anyone competent with women at that age. Work on yourself, hit the gym and be social as fuck with as many people as you can and you’ll get there. I didn’t hit my stride with women until I was 26 and then finally started seeing some real success after a lot of bungles, fumbles, L’s, and failures. After that it was off the races

Hot_Pear2595 · 2025-01-31T19:29:06+00:00

Start small, with customer service employees, then with strangers, and so on.

HappySprinter · 2025-01-31T19:30:07+00:00

Talk to ALL strangers. Get used to greeting people and being able to hold a conversation with your barber, Uber driver or supermarket clerk. Socialising is habitual and it becomes easier the more you do it. Talking to girls will Become second nature.

Also, don’t have a ‘goal’ when speaking to a girl. Just enjoy it and stop thinking about the fact you want something from her.

Medical_Tutor_7749 · 2025-01-31T20:25:42+00:00

You can follow typical advice like:

-reframe your thoughts to see women as just regular people

-practice and get better through exposure therapy

-work on your general interpersonal skills

But I think the heart of the matter is your own sense of self worth. You probably see yourself as inferior. If you can work on yourself and possess natural confidence and feel comfortable with who you are, then your social skills will automatically improve by default and people will naturally get a good impression of you. It's the base foundation that is the most important.

Aggravating-Bar-9301 · 2025-01-31T21:07:23+00:00

Your focus is off. Youve got to stop putting so much weight on how your interactions with women go and start focusing on having pleasant interactions with people in general. Succeeding at THAT is the primer for successful interactions with women.

ThotBubble · 2025-01-31T19:40:20+00:00

Do you want to get laid?! Like wtf kind of question is this you don’t deserve any pussy if you are afraid to talk to girls this shit is wild

Title	How do I get over my fear of talking to girls?
Author	AppropriateBoss2585
Upvotes	19
Comments	50
Date	January 31, 2025 7:19 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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