Went on around 12 dates with this one girl. It was really passionate in the beginning, but I got a little more invested towards the middle and she started pulling away, spacing out texts a bit more (she’s avoidant). I did neglect the abundance mindset a bit while seeing her, but nonetheless showed up as my most authentic self, and really tried to understand her. She said I was better than all her exes, and I guess I took that as a reason to go full throttle in our dynamic. I’m anxious attached but have gradually been trying moving towards more secure, and this relationship helped me realize what I deserve.

After our last date, I texted her later that week saying I’m gonna have to wait until the weekend to hang again, and she breadcrumbed me after 3 days, so I ghosted her. She then sent another text trying to act like SHE was walking away; not me, but I held my silence. She then showed up at the bar I frequent with another dude a few days later, and I just enjoyed my night and actually went home with another girl.

In the past I would’ve chased more, reacted, or even politely ended things, but now if someone isn’t respecting me; they lose that closure.