I’ve been studying seduction, attraction, and social dynamics for as long as I can remember. I’m 34 now, and I’d say I had a late start when it comes to dating. I had to learn all of this later in life—how to approach women, how to connect, how to create attraction—and over the last five years, I’ve reached points where I became a f-boy player with women in my life and have the kinds of experiences most guys dream of.

That said, I’ve noticed a recurring pattern: Whenever I take a break from going out, or if I get blown out several times in a row, it’s like I forget how to be the cool version of myself. My ability to connect, flirt, seduce feels distant, like I have to relearn it again.

I end up rewatching videos on game that I already seen many times to remind myself how to pickup women again. And going over fundamentals again. Why does my knowledge seems to disappear so quickly when not actively using it—or when we’re in a streak of rejection or low state? Why does we need reminders for this subject and not other fundamentals we learn in life like math, psychology, etc?