So, I met this girl at a beach party earlier today. She was dancing near me, and after a while, I introduced myself. We ended up talking for about 30 minutes, which was cool, but during that time, random people kept coming up to me trying to start conversations. I’d chat for a bit, then go back to her. She didn’t seem to mind, and we were vibing.

She really liked dancing and eventually moved to the center of the dance floor. That’s when a bunch of guys started trying to dance with her. But every time she danced with one of them for a few seconds, she would look at me, then eventually come back and hug me, and then dance close to me. At that point, I was thinking, Maybe she wants me to be more aggressive, pull her in, maybe even kiss her. But I didn’t want to come off too strong. I was trying to be a nice guy since she seemed sweet.

We kept switching between dancing and sitting, just hanging out. Then, when they called the last dance, she actually grabbed me and pulled me in to dance. We danced for a while, but then at some point, we got separated. I didn’t want to seem clingy, so I didn’t go back to her right away. But then, out of nowhere, this really drunk girl came up to her and started dancing with her and then kissed her.

Man, I felt so disrespected. I was basically just tossed aside like I didn’t matter. I tried to step back in, and she danced with me for a bit, but then the other girl literally pushed me away. After that, I just walked off. It was one of those moments where I was like, “Damn, what just happened?”

We had exchanged numbers earlier in the night, and she said she’d message me, but honestly, I’m not expecting anything, and I don’t plan on texting her either. I’m just taking this as a learning experience.

This whole thing has me rethinking how I handle these situations. I realize I get self-conscious at parties, especially when it comes to dancing. I can talk to girls fine, but I feel like they start losing interest when all she wants to do is dance not talk. I’m starting to think I need to be more assertive, maybe not overthink things so much. I don’t know, man how do I move forward from this?