How to deal with loud nightlife

hunterpua · 2025-05-04T16:38:41+00:00

If you're out dancing, you wont need to talk until much later in the interaction.

You mentioned that you try to suggest going somewhere quieter but there isn't enough of a vibe to get them to agree yet.

Well, you can build that vibe entirely through dancing.

If anything, trying to talk to someone who is having a hell of a time dancing is actually taking value from them, because you're interrupting them as they're doing something they're really enjoying.

Here's what to do instead:

Start by dancing on your own.

You can pull it off by just standing and looking into the dancefloor but things generally tend to go smoother if you're already dancing when you spot each other.

To open, you have a few options.

You can wave or make a friendly gesture to them and if they respond positively, continue dancing as you go up to them.

You can also blatantly copy a girl's dance moves and make it funny and playful while making eye contact, then you can nod or wave or whatever and continue dancing with each other.

Then you can tease her. You can move away from her and dance with someone else and move from person to person for a bit before coming back around to her and repeating this a few times.

You can then get a bit more compliance by copying her first but then switching it up and gesturing to her to copy your moves.

To sexually escalate, use literal push-pull. Do a more intimate dance move with her, push her away or dance away from her and then pull her back in and do an even more intimate dance move, and just rinse and repeat. I've done sexual things with girls on dancefloors without ever talking to them.

Especially if you get to the point of sexual escalation, it's very easy to get close enough to whisper in her ear to suggest going somewhere more quiet.

And since you would have built up a lot more connection and sexual tension doing this, she's much more likely to go along with you.

And that's how it goes.

When I was single I used to really like meeting women on the dancefloor too because I didn't need to do a lot of things verbally to pull them when I dance with them the way I described above.

topher_atx · 2025-05-04T17:08:51+00:00

I've learned over the years, don't try to talk too much on the dance floor. You can maybe introduce yourself and get each others names, get close and speak into her ear, let her do the same to you. But women get kinda pissed off if you try to chat them up too much on the dance floor. The classic example of this is them going, "WHAT!?!?!" and getting irritated that you're trying to converse when its too loud for that. Instead, try to dance, and hopefully they get a little closer and dance with you (maybe not dance on you, but with you).

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-05-04T18:10:08+00:00

Wear earplugs every time you go. I also hated the noise and checked out of night clubs by the time I was around 25.

RealisticDiscipline7 · 2025-05-04T20:15:22+00:00

Yea unfortunately u have to vibe non-verbally first. But then if you wanna exchange a couple basics or flirty comments, you have an excuse to lean in close to her ear and can keep your deep voice.

burncushlikewood · 2025-05-05T00:18:06+00:00

Clubs can be difficult for this specific problem, in my experience trying to force a conversation in a loud night club is never a good approach. So how do you seduce? Body language, it's been scientifically proven that a large portion of communication is non verbal, so dance with her, give her space, and try to build value in the venue by dancing with multiple girls, and show women in the club you're having a good time and being brave. Also I suggest in clubs you don't stare and make women feel uncomfortable, if you focus on your friends, enjoying yourself and having fun, women will be surrounding you as they feel comfortable around you, you'd be surprised how often I've heard girls call guys creeps at night clubs, staring, being impatient,overly touchy, drunk, and just general bad social skills lol.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-05-05T07:04:46+00:00

You're not supposed to be talking to girls when the music is loud. Focus on physical/invitational openers and rely of escalation rather than verbals.

See my post on nightclubs. It gives you the full flow A-Z on what to do and how to do it.

For your hearing protection, I use two earplugs. The small one and layer another earmuffs on the outside, the type construction workers use.

Good for peacocking as well.

Title	How to deal with loud nightlife
Author	catlover34
Upvotes	15
Comments	19
Date	May 4, 2025 4:16 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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