Im talking about people who always have something about single moms, baby mamas, young parents, accidental pregnancies etc. The people who seem to think that if children in an older two parent suburban household and were planned that they’ll automatically have a good life. I theorize this belief comes from a sheltered life so they mistake a family that LOOKS good with a family that is good.

You can have a mom that had you by accident and raise up to the challenges. You can have a mom who planned you for the wrong reasons and overestimate her parenting skills. You can have a mom who didnt marry your father but both are still active in your life. You can have a dad that married your mom and still doesnt do shit except be an extra income. You can be fatherless and be raised by an amazing mom. You can have two parents that make everyone BUT YOU a priority. Your parents can be young and make the appropriate sacrifices for you. Your parents can be the ideal age and still put no effort into their parenting skills.

To kids, the main thing that matters is “Do I like my family and was my upbringing good/ok?”. Everything else is less relevant. To kids, having married parents matters much less than “Did I live around good people/influences?” To kids, what matters is “Was I loved and properly cared for?”, not “was I planned?”

For anyone saying “well, everyone knows that”, then why constantly parrot “Kids do better in two parent households” when kids will do better in any household with enough income and decent people in their lives? Why stick your nose up at any family that has an unconventional family? Why care about factors that has nothing to do with child rearing?