I seems to me that a lot of my limiting beliefs about dating came from consuming info on seduction and seduction methods. Is it just me?

Either_Sundae6099 · 2025-06-01T07:43:52+00:00

Hard to answer, people interpret "advice" different ways.

I have dabbled with a few systems, but I never saw them as gospel or "the only way to do things", it was more of a "I wonder what will happen if I try this" just out of curiosity. Take Mystery Method Opinion Openers for example (at this point, I no longer use them, just for the record, but when I was more socially anxious, it helped), I would see how outrageous I could make them and get away with. Same with other things.

As for the you must act in a specific way, again I never read it that way. Sure there was "advice", "walk slow and with purpose", OK I will try that in a club or bar and see what happens. Its just fucking about with what someone says works. If nothing else, its something to do and focus on, rather than acting needy and desperate around women.

However... that is just my experience. Everyone will be different,

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-06-01T10:34:10+00:00

I tend to skip the “don’t do this, do this instead” and the “do’s and don’ts” of seduction articles. I think they’re just part of marketing gimmicks.

But I found out that limiting beliefs come from society itself. Just for an example how many times I see people in this sub giving advices “don’t date your coworker” either coming from morality or legal ground. When it reality people sleep with their coworkers all the time. Either an actual date or an affair. It’s pretty common that people find their so-called soulmate at work because we spend most of our time at work (proximity).

Or how about a general advice “don’t talk to strangers” given to us since we were a little kid. Hence people see “approaching women in public” as weird or discouraging.

What I found to be true tho: the more understanding we gain on something, the fewer dos and don’ts we have to care. The dos and don’ts are typically created because it’s easier than to teach someone to view the whole picture and have hiunderstand it.

RealisticDiscipline7 · 2025-06-01T14:20:46+00:00

Its seems like youre kinda looking for permission to just be yourself, trust your intuition and not worry so much about the dating “rules” and “tactics”. Yea, let it go if it feels better and you need to develop your basic emotional peace.

That doesnt mean dont go out and meet ppl, but being in your head during interactions so that you do them “right” is not fun for you or anyone else. The way i approach it is, i focus on being myself, and if the social insights I consume from content happen to pop in my head in the moment, then great.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-06-01T15:40:17+00:00

Limiting beliefs mostly come from victimhood thinking. You can see my post on that, I would suggest reading it with my "how to break out of depression" post and my next one will be on how to become more optimistic. These will help you break out of it and take action. If there is a trauma component to your problems, read the post called "self love." Those will give you technqiues like forgiveness, letting go etc.

These problems are a combination of many factors, so you will need to take time to deal with them one by one.

ZennedGame · 2025-06-01T18:15:46+00:00

It's less about seduction methods and more about the lack of emotional groundedness in your lack of experience (because that's all it is).

I'm sure those topics and concepts amplified or exposed a lot of self-doubt in ways you weren't conscious of before.

It gives you something to work on. Use it as fuel.

Anonymous-Man-2024 · 2025-06-01T10:16:06+00:00

It's also the survivorship bias. Guys with really good dating stories don't gravitate to YT or reddit because they are living the dream.

I actually come here to write to fix the issues I have after covid last year. In addition to losing all my social ability. I also forgot a tonne of my expansive vocabulary. I also have forgotten how to spell.

ExtraordinaryBeetles · 2025-06-03T02:42:18+00:00

I'm shocked the mods didn't take this down. This is one of those great inner game questions about pickup psychology that they seem to remove a lot.

I think you're on to something good. Most women haven't seen a fragment of what you've seen and aren't even aware of a lot of this stuff. All the exceptional cases that make their way to the top of every social media algorithm that makes them seem more common than they are are playing in your head and you are expecting things to happen that likely won't.

hattman57 · 2025-06-01T09:07:31+00:00

If you are legitimately taking seduction advice from redditors, you've already lost. Learn how to talk to people/ have normal conversations in your daily life, doesn't matter what you look like that is all that is important.

Anonymous-Man-2024 · 2025-06-01T10:11:49+00:00

Yes.
A lot of negative programming comes from this sub and the communities.

I believe in the power of the mind because I watched my brother become a multi multi millionaire in 6 years. His mind-set is unstoppable.

People who want to control you tell you that you are not enough.
It's sad to think so many people both men and women believe they are not valuable.

https://youtube.com/shorts/QUEOVD89OZA?si=vU1rWpdn43hMKVOB

Learn how to control your mind rewrite your own internal scripts.
This can be done by various methods. Start by googling.
Run your mind because if you don't other people will.

Think of the millions of people who are polarised by politics and religion and hate each other.
Their minds have been hijacked. Don't be one of them.

When you learn how to insulate yourself from the various psyops then the rules will no longer apply to you.

This community is full of shysters that want to sell you stuff.

Title	I seems to me that a lot of my limiting beliefs about dating came from consuming info on seduction and seduction methods. Is it just me?
Author	finnadawei
Upvotes	16
Comments	22
Date	June 1, 2025 7:37 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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