I’m relatively new to the world of game, largely because I used to face frequent rejection. As a result, I chose to focus on academics and my career instead. Although I was born and raised in a Western country and speak the local language fluently, I’m still often perceived as a foreigner. People tend to assume I’m Indian, even though I’m of mixed white heritage.

I bring this up because when I go out with wings who are native white men, I consistently notice a stark difference in how we’re received. Their openers are met with friendly engagement, while mine are often ignored or worse, met with visible irritation or even anger from the women.

This contrast has made me question how much race and appearance really matter in cold approach. The reality is, most well-known daygame coaches are white and conventionally attractive. I’ve yet to come across a coach who is a visible minority with below-average looks.