Want to Divorce but have 2 young kids

luckydrockstar · 2026-05-05T03:00:25+00:00

Can you DM

HistoricalRich280 · 2025-07-25T10:05:55+00:00

Those are actually good ages for the kids to manage an amicable split

probebeta · 2025-07-23T06:36:07+00:00

What are the issues? Rather than suggest breaking the family I'd consider thinking rationally about it. Try to fix things and give it the time you think it needs for you to see the results. In the meantime, plan for the worst and talk to a lawyer about options. Once both of you start messing around with other people you can call it a wrap.

balanced-asymmetry · 2025-07-23T03:14:18+00:00

I wish I filed when my kids were your age. Instead I buried my resentment inside of me and that led to unhealthy coping mechanisms and troubled children. I'm now going through divorce after trying couples therapy with her for months. I had to get over the stigma and realize that if we really can't work with each other as two adults in one household then it's not healthy to raise children in the same house.

Everybody's situation is different. I do recommend you self reflect and determine what changes you want to make to yourself, make those changes, and then see if the relationship improves. That's all you can do. See if you're willing to let go of the things about her that bother you. If you do those two things and still can't resolve your marriage, then it's time to consider divorce. Raising children in a house with a broken marriage is worse than being raised in separate houses, as long as the parents don't act resentful and spiteful towards each other.

painfulletdown · 2025-07-23T00:09:07+00:00

if you care about your children and want to see them, make sure you quickly divorce if she ever hints at false accusations of abuse.

Comfortable-Might240 · 2025-07-22T23:50:54+00:00

I don't think marriages should so readily end. I think you should be able to stand up to your wife and she should just stfu and submit to your authority, like the Bible commands. That would solve an enormous amount of problems in our society. It's such a waste and damaging to the kids to go through the grueling unnecessary clown process. Just read a study on the effects of divorce. Everyone in your household and associated with you would be a million times better off...but feminism and biased courts that reward evil behavior by women. I hope she's miserable on the other end if you go through it, and I'm sorry for your kids too. You need to fight her underneath for you kids and for yourself, fuck her

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2025-07-22T14:15:37+00:00

When my ex and I split, my youngest was 2. He has no memory of the before times, which my oldest refers to as the golden age.

You’re going to need counseling. In some states, the court is going to require it before they’ll consider letting you divorce. It may fix some things. It may not. And if it does not, you can present evidence that you tried.

Paddle_Pedal_Puddle · 2025-07-22T14:14:03+00:00

Have you truly done everything you can to improve yourself and your marriage? It’s really easy to point the finger at her and her faults and issues and how she’s making you feel, but have you really reflected on what you can control - yourself?

My ex cheated and even so, as I grow and improve as a man, I look back at things in my marriage I absolutely should have done differently. I don’t have a time machine so I’ll never know, but you better believe I struggle with whether things would have been different if I had been different. Living with that, especially seeing how this divorce has impacted my kids, isn’t easy even though I was justified in leaving her and my life is more peaceful now.

The grass isn’t greener on the other side, it’s just different. The greenness depends on the work you put into it. I often thought during my divorce that if my ex and I put as much effort, time and money into each other and our marriage as we put into our divorce, we could have had a great marriage.

sphynx8888 · 2025-07-22T13:50:16+00:00

At 3, they're not going to remember the (miserable) time you were together. Living separately will be all he knows.

My kids are still processing the change, but they love having two places with different toys, clothes and books at each.

kg110569 · 2025-07-22T13:47:10+00:00

Hey man, I’ve got a 3 (girl) and 1 year old (boy) and am about to file. I spent a long time thinking things could get better. The hardest part is whats going to happen to your eldest.

But for me a few things have stood out. 1. My wife is actively manipulating to make me and my family look worse to our daughter. The relationship is getting worse for me because of this and I see no way to change that unless I’m allowed time alone with her. 2. Yesterday my daughter saw us both smile (ironically they were not happy smiles) and she goes OH you’re both happy!!

It broke my heart. I realize what she’s going through and how bad it is for her to see this is what a relationship looks like.

Trust your gut but also be rational. If you think things can be better maybe wait a few months, but look for the signs in your little one. We always have to do what’s best for them in the long run. Cheers brother and good luck.

Title	Want to Divorce but have 2 young kids
Author	Fit-Prune-5490
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Date	July 22, 2025 1:15 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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