When I've explored Red Pill-type content, especially in the comments section of these contents, one of the most common justifications for this contents are the experiences of multiple men who have had their hearts broken, have been in toxic relationships, have gone through difficult divorces and horrible cheating, which has led them to hopelessness and with this, either taking a path without a love life or a path based on what I call "transactionality" (romantic relationships based on "game," "high status," "power," ways that ¨ensure¨ that you won't be broken again).

On a personal level, I know that I don't want either of these two paths, however, I feel that all these testimonies reveal that it can also happen to me, and the fear of this and the horrible outcomes makes it very tempting to be defensive on the sentimental spectrum (which can lead to one of those two unwanted paths).

And although I believe in forms of internal work ("working on your shadow," "improving your direct communication," "developing yourself and developing a greater purpose than you are"), these methods don’t seem to assure me that such a painful situation wouldn’t happen to me.

What are your perspectives on this?