What Are The Best Skills A Girl Can Acquire Before Marriage?

sine120 · 2025-09-08T20:59:27+00:00

Dude here, but I'll throw in one of the things that tends to prevent a lot of conflict, especially when babies show up.

The two of you should define and agree upon who owns what responsibilities. You and your partner should communicate early on and be on the same page about what the each of you contributes, and it should be as close to fair as possible. Communicate if the arrangement needs to change before resentment build up. Don't try to be a martyr and take on a disproportionate share of things, and don't let him be a martyr either.

blondehairedangel · 2025-09-08T21:47:53+00:00

Learn to use a sewing machine and do some basic sewing if you don't know how yet. This is going to come in handy when either yours or your husband's clothes need mending - perhaps you need a zipper or some Velcro replaced. It'll save a lot of money to be able to go ahead and replace that Velcro / zipper instead of having to replace the whole jacket or whatever it is. My dog had a winter coat and the velcro wore out after a few years but his coat was still otherwise in great shape. A new dog coat would have cost about $55. I replaced the Velcro for $7. And I still had Velcro left for future projects.

It's also good to learn good knife skills when it comes to cooking, and also figuring out what the best kitchen equipment is for you to be efficient. It's also a good idea to start learning ways that you can save money in the future. For example understanding where the best places to shop for the best prices near you are - do an experiment where you go to your local grocery store options with a notepad and compare about 10 random items in price. Try to find things that are equivalent to price compare. With cooking I'm not sure what level you are - if you meant you're a basic cook or a more skilled cook. But just assuming that you're a basic cook - I would say to have two or three dishes that you can absolutely excel at to bring to gatherings. I make the absolute best cakes. All of my friends rave about how delicious and moist my cakes are because I've put a lot of time into perfecting cakes specifically. I also make the absolute best cookies. A lot of other things I make are just average But I think that there is just something nice about being known for something you bring at the gatherings.

It would also be great if you could invest time into a hobby that you could use as a side income if possible in the future. You honestly never know when you might need extra money and need to step in to provide some. Also make sure that you have something in your back pocket as a marketable skill just in case anything were to happen - unfortunately sometimes the worst happens to people and you don't want to be a victim of tragic circumstances. I worked with someone who was widowed unexpectedly when her husband got into a car accident. So just be smart, keep up your computer skills, etc.

It might also be good to pick up a hobby that you enjoy right now because a lot of hobbies are a little bit hard to get started but once you get going you don't have to think about it. For example last year I learned how to crochet - it's kind of hard getting started with crochet. It took me a solid two weeks to learn - it would be a lot harder if I had a little one that I had to chase around the house. But now I can crochet passively without thinking about the movements my hands are making.

-terrold · 2025-09-08T21:10:27+00:00

The skill to love herself and not depend on validation from a spouse to feel happy

TheFeminineFrame · 2025-09-08T22:24:27+00:00

Communication — Learning to get to the heart of the issue and addressing that rather than being reactionary and attacking only the symptoms.

Learning to be respectful even when you disagree or are feeling negative emotions.

Learning to evaluate your own emotions and actions and be willing to take accountability for them.

Learning when not to talk. Is it something is important or should you let it go. Not every passing annoyance needs to be communicated. Is it important? Is this what is really bothering you? Is this a passing annoyance or a reoccurring theme? Is this really a you problem that you should deal with rather than expecting him to solve?

Developing good habits, routines, and discipline— get in the habit of handling basic functions so they are easy enough even when you don’t feel like it. Have some sort of rhythm to your routine.

Planning ahead preparing for coming events so that you are not rushed and don’t forget things. Things like seeing out clothes for the next day, meal prepping, etc.

Being able to break down goals into small steps and habits that are manageable. And then being able to actually out these plans into action consistently.

Building these sorts of daily rhythms may seen to apply on the surface to be more masculine but as you start to build a family and are trying to manage little people they are essential to develop.

lightmilktea · 2025-09-08T21:13:58+00:00

One thing I just realized that we lack in our marriage is: Teamworking skills. As a result, we suffer from miscommunication, arguments, and misunderstandings when we are in a situation where we have to work together, i.e. a great/loyal couple but a dysfunctional team. Working as a team is a skill. Since this is RPW, as the husband learns to be a better captain, the wife should learn how to be a better first-mate. Perhaps going out there to participate in team-building activities can be beneficial; any fun activity, volunteer, or professional work that involves responsibilities as a team member. This is something I believe my wife is lacking and could work on more, and I believe it's not her fault as she didn't have a good upbringing with sufficient enrichment. I think women tend to get the shorter end of the stick in terms of team working skills, since families tend to shelter and pamper them more, and then get surprised when they can't function in a marriage. So it's not my wife's fault, but she needs to work on it, and I now have to introduce some activities to build rapport as a team.

CriticalEggplant6007 · 2025-09-09T01:41:05+00:00

Sex education, having self-esteem, being financially literate, having your own hobbies and passions, have a good relationship with your body and know how to stay safe and healthy.

JPDG · 2025-09-09T03:24:57+00:00

Learn how to communicate your needs in a healthy way (for the guy, as well). My wife is a pro at this and actually taught me. It's make or break. No guesswork, just this-is-how-i'm-feeling and this-is-what-I-need. Search around for NVC (non-violent communication).

It's a game-changer.

SisiIsInSerenity · 2025-09-08T21:43:45+00:00

Communication. I know it's overstated, but, having been married since seven months now, I cannot say it enough. Communicate everything – in fact, overcommunicate when it comes to tough topics, your feelings, and your needs; your spouse(-to-be) is not a mind reader. Learn to communicate these things, calmly, with love and grace – especially if having a disagreement, you do not want to raise your voice or react to his anger! – as well as with the idea that you may not get what you want and will have to compromise. Clarity and compromise are the name of the game. But, that said, learn when to bite your tongue. Him leaving a cup out that you can wash in thirty seconds is not the end of the world. So what if he didn't push in his chair; you can do it, too. Speaking of communication, always remember your manners. Learn the art of the thank-you note and well-worded invitations. Procure your speech. Practice communication with family, too. You may well be in charge of "representing" you and him socially to his family, someday, if that makes sense.
Being ladylike and feminine. This is less about dress and appearance and more about demeanor. Don't nag, snark, or be a negative force. Give support, uplifting words, and offer the benefit of the doubt. This goes for your SO as well as to all the world; speak and do good for others and keep your lips and hands to yourself if not. It also might be in details such as lighting a candle, having fresh flowers, throwing a ribbon in your hair, and the like; but watch your (body) language, gestures, and demeanor. Act with poise in the physical and social senses. Don't be afraid too to be a bit childlike; a sense of wondermented curiosity and unbridled, playful joy make you easy to be around. But also be a woman when you need to be – woman up! is a strong term; not in any feminist sense but more in the sense that you should take pride in your sex and do things because of it, not because it entitles you to anything. Woman up and let him hold the door for you. Ask him to do a task and admit you need help. That is a good thing.
Self-knowledge, comfort in yourself, and mastery of yourself... enough said.

Wife_and_Mama · 2025-09-08T21:39:02+00:00

Organization skills. Seriously, I'll have five under five in December and I am substantially less stressed than most of the other stay-at-home moms I know. The reason isn't because I'm more laid back, but because I have a stricter schedule. My kids wake up at a certain time, have scheduled snack times, play times, clean up times, nap times, meal times, bath days, bedtimes, etc. Of course there has to be some room for variation when there are doctor appointments or everyone is sick. Compared to my friends who let their kids snack all day, nap when they fall asleep, watch as much TV as they like, pick up if and when they feel like it, and go to bed whenever, I am much happier and less stressed. These are pretty laid back women, too, but no one's that laid back.

Get good at prioritizing tasks, finishing what you start, setting small goals, building toward larger goals, organizing the little catch-alls in your home and coming up with larger systems that are easily maintained (like cleaning the sheets on a certain day, the bathroom on another, self-care, etc.). All of this will make your life immensely easier as a wife and mother.

I want to be a young mom.

This is a lovely goal, but my mom advice that I'd give my own daughters is to remember that this is not wholly within your control. That doesn't mean it can't happen, but while it's important to plan yoir life with deliberation, be open to the possibility that it might not pan out just as you're picturing. That doesn't mean it won't be amazing, but it's not uncommon for women with this goal to show up here at 25, devastated that it didn't work out just as they wished. Do the work you can, but keep in mind that things might look a little differently.

taduyt · 2025-09-09T11:42:14+00:00

Cooking, cleaning, laundry, budgeting, baking, sewing, gardening, nutrition, decoration and interior design, parenting/child care/pregnancy, first aid basics.. I suggest you read "Home economics" by jennifer mcknight trontz, it has what you looking for

VasiliyZaitzev · 2025-09-09T05:00:00+00:00

So it seems you already have the skill, but I will reinforce it: Cooking. There is nothing like a hot meal prepared with love. For you as we’ve already developed this, it may mean venturing into a new style of cuisine but the more dishes you have in your repertoire better offer you’re going to be.

This one has been touched onto, but I will repeat it: basic bookkeeping and household budgeting.

Really all of the traditional feminine arts. I helped a friend of mine move and as it turns out, she’s quite an accomplished seamstress as well as a good cook. So she made me red borsh and remarked that if I ever needs anything mended, she would be happy to do it. As it turns out, I had a backlog because my hands were made for crushing skulls, not threading needles, so it would’ve taken me. I don’t know how long she was able to put together in about 20 minutes. For multiple items.

When you do start dating a guy seriously, and then ultimately marry him, think about what his strengths and weaknesses are in stock them up against yours and find areas of overlap where your strengths can be of assistance to him.

Acceptable_Panda8266 · 2025-09-09T19:52:43+00:00

Learn how to earn money and manage your own money, have savings, invest if you can and don’t get a joint bank account. Both have your own money and potentially a shared one just for paying bills. Having your independence and savings for if you ever need to leave is crucial

Jenneapolis · 2025-09-10T17:00:24+00:00

Emotional stability. It is so hard for most of us but it’s going to be the number one thing that will help you in basically every situation you have in life.

Even-Purple-1749 · 2025-09-10T12:15:29+00:00

Financial administration, budgeting. What is coming in and going out. Pensions, savings etc. If you become a SAHM this is even more important, your household income is yours too and both husband and wife should understand bills, tax and budgeting.

Whilst you maybe a SAHM, that will unlikely be your only career especially as kids will go to school and leave home. Unless your husband earns a very high salary. So thinking about how you can also make an income, what you are good at or enjoy doing, that you can work or study on on the side or for the future.

agile_structor · 2025-09-09T17:28:54+00:00

My wife says.

If you want the marriage to work, you must learn to hold your tongue between your teeth.

Or as people used to say in old times... put pebbles in your mouth so you won't open it immediately.

AutoModerator · 2025-09-08T20:49:01+00:00

Title: What Are The Best Skills A Girl Can Acquire Before Marriage?

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Full text: I'm 19 and not yet married, although actively preparing as I want to be a young mom. I fortunately grew up in a patriarchal household, where my mom taught me a lot of domestic skills, such as cooking, cleaning, and decorating. However, she passed when I was in high school, so I unfortunately don't have her as a resource now.

I'd love to hear from married women about the skills they find most valuable as wives or mothers. This could something really concrete (like removing stains) or less tangible (like keeping the spark alive with your husband). What should I be investing my time in as I train to be the best future wife and mother I can be?

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Title	What Are The Best Skills A Girl Can Acquire Before Marriage?
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