Does anyone else feel like they struggle due to their lifestyle or style in general?

drewster23 · 2025-09-25T16:56:27+00:00

You're 40 year old with a niche style...you definitely know by now you don't appeal to everyone. So....?

Your fashion choices don't have anything to do with you being charismatic and fun to be around.

Illustrious_Size610 · 2025-09-25T17:16:44+00:00

People here are always quick to shift blame into external things or things beyond their control for their poor results and avoiding all responsibility for their actions and choices when interacting with a particular woman.

Many people also want to reject themselves before the woman has a chance to do it herself because their fragile egos can’t take a woman turning them down so they’d rather tell themselves that if they don’t date any woman it’s because they never even tried in the first place.

Others don’t try because they think what’s the point I’m just gonna get rejected, and it’s like yeah maybe that’s not a reason to avoid trying anyway. You don’t try because the result is guaranteed to be positive, you do it because being honest with what you wish to have means you go for it, cuz it’s not your job to reject yourself, that’s her job.

Now many people can’t handle rejection, they think it just destroys them, and sure because they haven’t learned that rejection is just about lack of connection and they interpret rejection or acceptance by a woman as proof of worth or lack of worth,…

So from that frame they are choosing to interpret yeah rejection feels brutal, when you change the frame into connection or no connection then it’s not brutal anymore. It’s just natural alignment or disalignment.

As for the reasons women reject you, you are just telling a story to yourself about the reason, you think it’s because your lifestyle or style when in reality each woman can turn you down for different reasons that have nothing to do with that.

You think that if a woman likes you it’s because you have a trendy hairstyle and in reality many women can like you for other reasons that have nothing to do with your hairstyle. It’s all a story.

What matters is that you own your identity without apologizing for it, without showing shame for it, without doubting yourself when she brings it up or criticizes it, because you should never apologize for who you are. You should always double down and not take opinions on yourself personally.

Life-Income2986 · 2025-09-25T17:37:29+00:00

Yeah man Metallica played to a million strong live crowd in soviet Russia. Not a single woman. It's definitely not just you, go outside, what's wrong with you.

nintendoborn1 · 2025-09-25T17:48:10+00:00

Yes definitely

Casanova-Quinn · 2025-09-25T20:52:20+00:00

Is this not obvious? If you look "alternative", you generally won't attract "normal" people.

Whether or not you think that's it worth it to change your appearance is up to you.

Personally I've never understood why people think they have to to style themselves based on their interests. I'm a fan of lots of things that aren't stereotypically "white" or "mainstream", but I still look/dress like a normal white dude, which I am lol.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-09-25T17:42:58+00:00

I'm 52 and I don't have that problem. I have no Tattoos and I'm always changing my look.

wervil · 2025-09-25T17:25:23+00:00

Hey I'm 45 and an artist, and I know exactly how you feel seeing the NPC noobs everywhere looking like a Nike ad. However from what I can see on the internet, people like that are having just as tough of a time. Where did you move to and from, are you in America? It seems to me that its not anything that anyone can do here to get attention, its more that there's a deep seated problem, a many headed hydra of politics, economics, culture that has basically turned women all the way off. They are avoiding any situation where they might get hit on. They are dopamine addicted and chronically online. Their egos are totally saturated by simp attention and bad experiences with sex pest fuck boys. Imo the people to blame are the NPC guys walking around with porn on the brain, leftovers from the PUA community etc, and everyone on instagram trolling women and destroying the culture. As those kids with broccoli haircuts say, we are cooked.

Rhino3750ss · 2025-09-25T17:27:32+00:00

Even now as a taken man I feel the struggle. I've always been a blue collar workaholic, in the past women I have dated felt I wasn't paying enough attention or prioritizing them (because I wasn't). My current girl is in a different universe than me, she is a doctoral candidate in the academic realm and I'm an on call mechanic that didn't even know what a dissertation was until she showed me.

If I get a call in the middle of the night, I go. Sometimes she gets pissy at first but always treats me well when I return. I know for a fact if I turned down the customer to stay in bed with my chick, she would pretend to be happy about it but also be turned off and sleep on the couch. The struggle is that I don't want her to be upset about me doing what I have to do, but me prioritizing my purpose is what attracted her and keeps her attracted. Goes to show if your girl never acts pissy, you aren't fully committed to your masculine duties.

Title	Does anyone else feel like they struggle due to their lifestyle or style in general?
Author	Hungry-Forever4108
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Comments	13
Date	September 25, 2025 4:51 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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