Stbex won’t remove stuff

That_Cup_3858 · 2025-11-21T10:19:00+00:00

Took your advice last night I started packing up her stuff. My bedroom and bathroom are done. Stacked it in the garage. Now onto the next room. It felt good to take her pictures off the wall. Time to make it my home.

LoveCrispApples · 2025-11-20T20:02:13+00:00

I packed my ex's stuff in 2-3 days and put it all into a nice, neat, and rather large pile in the finished basement. It's a walkout, so there was no need for her to go picking through the rest of the house. It took her a few trips to clear it out, but it was done quickly overall because of my labor. And, of course, her desire to "move on and be happy." 🙄

You might not feel like it's your responsibility, but the faster you can reclaim your space, the happier you'll be. Plus, you'll have a clear view of what you need to replace on your own, if anything.

IceDue123 · 2025-11-20T18:16:57+00:00

My my ex wasn’t allowed in my house because she came in when I was out of town moving OUR daughter into college

I just took all her stuff and put it in a storage unit and mailed her the key, told her unit was paid for 60 days

So I get a text saying who do I think I am, blah, blah. I responded I’m following the court order and my lawyers instruction and I’m not going to debate this.

Just knowing she was mad (irrationally) and IDGAF was I huge bright spot for me

Paddle_Pedal_Puddle · 2025-11-20T16:13:02+00:00

Listen to your lawyer and stop getting emotional about it. Don’t email her or contact her. Dump her stuff in boxes and garbage bags. Take pictures. Put it in the garage. Be done with it.

One_Cartographer_465 · 2025-11-20T14:53:49+00:00

Pack her shit. You mentioned this is a form of manipulation and you are right. As long as her shit is in your house she can manipulate the situation. If you pack her shit and put it in the garage, even though it is still manipulation, it is the LAST manipulation you will have to deal with.

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-11-20T13:53:48+00:00

Pack that shit in boxes and put it in the garage. Mine did the same shit. Thought she'd just come back whenever she wanted and takes stuff here and there. I moved it all into the garage in boxes. She came over and got it pretty quick.

Worldly-Strike2363 · 2025-11-20T13:45:53+00:00

Follow your lawyers advice if you don't like seeing your ex's stuff laying around your house.

It's not poking the bear if you're not doing out of malice.

However never give an impression that you're afraid of upsetting her. Once she senses that she will use it to her advantage. Always give an impression that you're ready to fight back hard if needed and even if they win it will be phyrric victory.

upvotersfortruth · 2025-11-20T10:21:28+00:00

There is no escape from this being a problem. So which kind of problem do you want? Her poking around the house or her complaining something is missing if you pack it? For me it would be the latter.

But then I think why should I have to move her crap?

Please keep this sentiment to yourself, it frankly seems kind of babyish and petty.

Ok-Cucumber-6976 · 2025-11-20T10:02:57+00:00

If you are in the USA. You can deposit it in a private warehouse. And send a notification. If she doesn't pick up the property from the warehouse, it will be sold.

UnrulyAnteater25 · 2025-11-20T09:21:01+00:00

This happened to me. I chose to move all her stuff into the garage, including furniture. A year later, she still didn’t come and I threw out a lot of it (not everything). Another year later she came and took some of her things from the garage and left the rest. I threw that out, too.

My lawyer and therapist told me to trash it all after she missed her court-issued deadline to get it. I didn’t listen. Being nice didn’t matter. In the end she accused me of ruining her stuff. In actuality, she had a small apartment and couldn’t fit it all.

Title	Stbex won’t remove stuff
Author	That_Cup_3858
Upvotes	11
Comments	23
Date	November 20, 2025 8:58 AM UTC (8 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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