I guess i just need to get this out there. A for the past few weeks she has been distant. And i didn’t say much, gave her the space she needed. Married for almost 20. She starting becoming distant and exhibiting cold and closed body language. I know i didn’t do anything wrong, i don’t cheat or abuse. Against my better judgment i went through her phone and found no signs of infidelity or new friends. No changes in pattern or behavior. So i finally asked whats going on. And on thanksgiving she told me sh doesn’t want to be like this forever, and doesn’t see a forever with me anymore. Im broken, we have 2 high schoolers girls and a college girl as well. I don’t know how to work through this. Ive been leaning on friends to talk, and work is a disaster. I don’t know if I’ve done anything productive other than stare at a monitor since this all came started. We have talked a bit and have had some cordial conversation, but i know she will finalize this conversation after the holiday.

I guess i just needed to say this out loud. Thanks for listening.