How rare are insta dates ?

Happyseducer · 2026-01-09T23:35:03+00:00

Super common - maybe like 1 in 3 or 4 approaches for me.

The key is make it casual. It's natural. Like you are hitting it off and "hey let's do this thing".

Logistics matter though. Right now I am doing most of my approaches in an open layout mall. That makes it so easy - going to a cafe in the mall feels like just moving to a different location inside the same place.

The more casual and easy it feels , verbally and logistically the easier it will be. That's actually the "secret" to instadates and even taking girls home. Make it comfortable and easy for her

actinamiosina · 2026-01-09T21:47:27+00:00

When I was active, my metric was ~1 in every 20 approaches

Yedya · 2026-01-09T22:01:07+00:00

Once I did a 10 min talk then love hotel, rare

Doctor__Finance · 2026-01-10T17:02:58+00:00

One time I approached to girl on Starbucks. She seemed very shy, and impressed by my academic career (scholar in finance, and just got back to my home country from the US).

Let me put it that way, I am LinkedIn guy, and do post stuff about my field and since I started doing more cold approach instead of online game, I really stopped spending time on IG. Therefore, I had low amount of posts, likes, by all means overall interactions.

She is an amateur actor, studying sport science, therefore had 4K+ followers but in reality, 7.5 at best. Even though she was overwhelmed by my approach, she literally stopped replying after two messages, and did not follow me back either.

I deactivated my IG since.

becomesharp · 2026-01-10T06:52:02+00:00

HIGHLY HIGHLY depends on your skill level, assuming you're doing day game. There's also a high variability factor day to day, meaning some days 8 or 9 out of 10 women are in relationships, and other days 8 out of 10 women are into you.

A beginner who is shy or awkward will rarely get instadates. Maybe 1 in ~40-50 approaches, sometimes even less, depending on how awkward he is.

A beginner who is well adjusted will do closer to 1 in 20-30 approaches

Intermediate guy will do ~1 in 10-20

Advanced guy will do in ~1 in 5-10

epimpstyle · 2026-01-09T22:07:32+00:00

1 in 5 years.

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-01-09T22:47:15+00:00

Depends on your location. Usually, it's either/or, dates/idates.

If the country has high tourist intake, it is not uncommon for idates to even be 1/5

If the country has people that are bad at scheduling (mediterannean) then idates are also more common.

If you are in the West, just do dates. The best idate is 10x more volatile than an idate or sdl attempt. It is always preffered.

DefeatTheUp · 2026-01-10T00:24:26+00:00

depends entirely on social circle and vibes

deadbeat65 · 2026-01-10T22:54:29+00:00

I turned down 3 last 2 month got rejected 5 times. So it’s a bulk game

Title	How rare are insta dates ?
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Date	January 9, 2026 9:45 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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