There is a feminist trope that I am seeing more frequently, that feminism is a safe space for both sexes. I disagree with this strongly, and let's take a common issue amongst young men and the "loneliness epidemic" that is now seen as a sort of joke even though it's totally real, gen Z feel a lack of purpose, meaningless existence, from being constantly socially beaten down by the job market, by wars, and by a rise of political correctness that shuts down any option for debate.

Gender dynamics and dating are very discussed topics online, and I think it's interesting because it affects nearly everyone, as in our Pyramid of Priorities, in the western world, we usually have the food and shelter aspect covered, we then crave being social.

However here's where feminism goes wrong ; it is IMPOSSIBLE for men to debate about their romantic scarcity in a mixed environment. If I open up about it online, which I've done many times, that I've never had a relationship and the kindness I want to give to a partner is a race against time until it transforms into bitterness, it isn't met with sympathy. It's met with Just World fallacies, "the trash takes itself out" ; "have you considered looking inward" ; "maybe don't be misogynistic". In the real world, you have to lie about your relationship history or you'd be met with disgust and being 'icky'.

And if most surface-level topics already close any conversation, in a time where there are feminist books "How to win every argument" it's clear to me that it's more important for them to have a debate to win it, rather than to debate. I've managed to have my post history open for nine years, but now I've closed it, since you can't say anything without getting stalked anymore. Subreddits are getting closed down and the echo-chambers are growing on other websites.

Men need places to vent, places to share raw opinions about their feelings, and build nuance by relating to other men. Feminists are not your friends. Keep your free-thinking and trust your gut.