Serious advice for men: Don't date broke women

An observation, along with some advice. I've heard a lot of guys mention that men don't care about how much money their potential girlfriends and wives make when choosing a partner, and they mention it almost like it's a brag. I understand the virtue of placing humanity and raw attraction over money and socioeconomic class, but I really think more men need to start caring.

Most women want to oppose traditional gender roles, but a certain type of woman stops opposing them the moment that duties typically shouldered by men come up. Avoid this type of woman. In fact, avoid all women who are strongly invested in the idea of any duty men toward them that they would never reciprocate, including "trad" types, they are delusional parasites. We're at a point of civilizational advancement where there are enough educational and economic opportunities for women for them to not depend financially on men. Anyone who refuses to adapt to that reality is not a reasonable person. You shouldn't date them, or embody their beliefs yourself.

Women who have their shit together don't have to stake their future on the belief in male financial duty toward them. They can see you for your humanity because they are grown-up enough to realize that your financial prosperity comes from your job and not your boyfriend. Have you ever noticed what all those girls who think first dates need to be over $100 to be a "real date" tend to have in common? They're usually broke. They might dress fancy, but the girls obsessing about the amount of money men spend on dates are usually financially dependent on men, in heavy credit card debt, and financially unstable. Women with a 401k aren't sitting around with their friends squawking about how cheap a guy was on a simple first date.

Women who are willing to pay for dates are a green flag. Almost every girl and woman I've ever dated since I was in high school has been willing to pay for dates at least some of the time. My first girlfriend was excited to use the money from her first job to take me to a concert. The upper-class girl I dated my in college paid for every single date for the first two months of our relationship simply because she understood it was stupid for a young girl with a trust fund to expect a 19 year old with a part-time job to pay for everything just because he was a guy and she was a girl.

I avoid women who see dating as a route to economic gain, and the results have been great. The only woman I dated who fixated on how much I spent on dates and insisted that I plan out and pay for absolutely everything was emotionally abusive. When we broke up she started dating a man who was 56 years old (we were both 21) and got abused herself, followed by two hasty marriages to military guys that lead to hasty divorces, then a third marriage and divorce to a much older single dad who also divorced her. She is now 33 years old and three times divorced, and I am happily married to a woman I've been with for seven years.

My exes who were willing to take me out? They're all in great relationships. My high school girlfriend who would take me out with money from her part-time job married the very next guy she dated and they're happy with kids, 16 years later. My rich trust-fund college girlfriend? She's now a highly paid aircraft engineer, and happily married to a guy she started dating in her mid-20s. Her husband is a wildlife tour guide who makes less money than her but she doesn't give a shit because he has qualities that she loves (adventurous spirit, humor, kindness, joyfulness) and they're financially fine. My other exes who didn't chase men for money are all doing great too. Either married or in long-term relationships, pursing careers for money and romantic relationships for meaning (and not the other way around). As for others in my life, I see the same pattern. My friend who married a lawyer is happy with his relationship and loved by his wife, my friend who married a dropout who couldn't keep a job for more than a year gets nagged and financially drained by her.

As for me? I lost my job a few weeks after I started dating the woman who is now my wife, and it had zero negative impact on her feelings toward me. Why? Because she understood that I needed some time to get back on my feet. While I was looking for a new job we still went on dates, either cheap dates planned by me. I think I knew then that she was special, because the fact that I needed to save money and not spend it on expensive dates didn't make me less attractive to her. We laughed at each other's jokes, had enough interests in common to enjoy things together but enough diverging interests to have our own space, and the sex was great. Money wasn't on her mind.

Her mature self-responsibility also bled into the rest of her relationship ethos and made her a better girlfriend (and later wife) all around. She is fair. She knows when to apologize instead of starting a fight to make sure she is always "right". She has never used any of the insecurities or emotional vulnerabilities I've revealed to her against me. She's there for me just as much as I'm there for her. She doesn't demand anything that she wouldn't be willing to return. The sex is still great. She will initiate it just as often as I do, and is just as proactively physical during sex as I am.

I know I'm just drawing from my own life and a statistically non-conclusive sample size of people that I know, but I'm noticing a pretty strong pattern here. Stop believing the women who claim that it's normal for them to never pay for anything, never listen to your wants and needs, and never need to give their man emotional support. It's not normal. Women who can and do pull their weight are out there, you just need to avoid broke girls like the plague.

Don't try to attract women by signaling superficial wealth and luxury, you might as well bleed in front of a shark. Don't indulge Cinderella fantasies about "saving" a girl who will be eternally grateful to you for economically elevating her, she won't be grateful, she may even see you as an ATM machine and not as a human. Don't assume that focusing on your finances and career will improve your dating prospects; if all you have to offer is money, all you will attract is women who want your money. Don't entertain women who think cheap first dates aren't "real dates". Don't date women who aren't employed, or at least getting education/job training. Don't date women who don't have a plan for their career. Don't date women who've never paid their own bills before. Most of all? Don't talk to girls who can somehow afford expensive clothes and accessories but can't afford a car or their own Uber ride to meet you.

TL;DR: Every man I know who married or long-term dated a financially stable and educated woman is in a happy relationship and every woman I know who never expected men to pay their bills and pay for every date went on to be in happy marriages. Every woman I know who chased men for money ended up with a sour love life, and every man I know who stayed with broke and entitled women ended up with nightmare relationships to emotional/financial parasites. DON'T DATE BROKE WOMEN.