Not making dates feel like friends meeting

norwegiandoggo · 2026-03-06T07:48:45+00:00

Be vulnerable. Open up bro! Share something personal.
Get her to be more vulnerable by asking more personal / deeper questions.
Flirt flirt flirt. Say something sexual... Make some sexual jokes, escalate physically. Goof around, tease her, have fun. It's about feelings - not about logic. Less talking, more doing. Create a vibe between you. Your goal is stirring up her feelings. Not figuring out what she does in her spare time after work (BORRRRINNGGG!!!)

Sorry-Place6291 · 2026-03-06T10:04:23+00:00

I ran into this with this bomb cleveland chick. Looking back she was looking at more of a partner in life with me so testing me big time. I went from feeling like a friend to a husband every hour. She was teasing and massaging me with shirt off and kissing but no cheeks. It ended up confusing me after 1st night so i started getting salty about it. We had fun the next two days, I stayed the night and after the 3rd night I told her I was good after not letting me hit and leading it on.

I feel like there is a line with girls and it can get thin when you separate men into 3 categories

1)hook up

2)middle grey area (my favorite, everything is open and exciting)

3)looking at potential long term

Each guy is getting treated differently, again i strive for 2 so i get to be a little intimate and have fun with them but not attach too much. Its funny cause the girls that are exciting will have me play the ol cat and mouse game at least for a little bit until i figure it out and I just gotta take the L and learn from it.

Figuring out the game and the rules that chick plays by is a cheat code. The girls that dont let you know are the challenges

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-03-06T08:43:07+00:00

You can talk about the most mundane things, that's not important at all. What's important is creating sexual tension through eye contact and escalating touch. It helps to flirt, push and pull, play word games like Would you rather and escalate from innocent to romantic to sexual questions, but most of your escalation should be non-verbal. Holding her by the small of her back, holding her hand, hugging her, dancing with her or whirling her around, all the way to your home where you can begin sexual escalation. For example, shy girls will only kiss you or have sex with you once they're alone with you.

CibrecaNA · 2026-03-06T08:31:44+00:00

Watch this video:

https://youtu.be/0rSb_QD08vw

Tldr, stop talking like a friend. Start talking like a lover.

SettingOutrageous538 · 2026-03-06T18:23:12+00:00

I think you’re over-indexing on safe conversation. Think less interview, more shared moment bro. Keep the logistics talk short&sweet, then move into feelings and preferences: what she actually enjoys, what turns her off, what kind of vibe she likes with a guy. Also agree with the "don’t sit across like a job interview" comments. Side-by-side seating and small venue changes make escalation way more natural. If you freeze on this in real time, practice saying flirty/intentional lines out loud before dates. I did that with RizzRise app and it made me way more comfortable when it counted.

CraPixelArt · 2026-03-06T23:52:38+00:00

after going on a bunch of dates you start getting experimental and a little bolder on the flirting over time. just take baby steps in trying something new every date

know that girls are also horny and also enjoy sex. just don't be creepy about it. you'll calibrate over time to figure out what level of hinting and horny joking is appropriate. them feeling safe and trusting of you is a big thing

also try talking to everyone! from the employee to the old lady at the bus stop. the other week I chatted to like 5 strangers while waiting in line for the fitting room. banter and flirt and be silly. if you get good at creating fun interactions, you can do it with the pretty girl on a date

you're gonna fail at first. I had absolutely angels I have no clue how I got dates with when I just started out. I was awkward and did "friendly" dates with them and fumbled. I regret it but what can you do. ~50 first dates later I know I would do way better if the opportunity arose again

Dandys3107 · 2026-03-08T13:14:02+00:00

It's highly about creating that extraordinary impression that would make the girl feel like you are worth a risk to open sexually to. Show your sexually attractive traits, like good physique, intelligence, confidence, leading, social skills. Moreover, you should implement close proximity and escalate touch ladder as soon as possible, but at the same time make it look natural and observe girl's reactions and body language to control the tempo of getting more intimate. You should also trigger strong emotions, I would suggest to go through the explanation of push-pull technique, if done correctly it provides a spectrum of emotions which will make the girl more connected and interested. And finally, create an unique experience and romantic connection. It's not necessarily about making some big investment or get highly unpredictable. Sometimes one brief interaction, one sentence, one touch, one deep eye contact which girl has never experienced before can get her captivated. There is really no certainty while dealing with humans, you should test different techniques and get lots of experience so you can feel naturally what works for you.

ev3rm0r3 · 2026-03-06T07:05:16+00:00

Stop making the date about what your going to say to lead to sex. If that's your goal you ARE going to fail every single time. If you can't talk about mutual interests the date is over and move on. That's the best advice I can give you. Looks only get you attraced, nothing more. If the sound of their voice, their laugh and conversation doesn't make you scream take me now, its a dud.

Title	Not making dates feel like friends meeting
Author	thisisanewstartbud
Upvotes	42
Comments	22
Date	March 6, 2026 6:38 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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