How to heal trauma around shame of expressing your sexuality

Secure-Outcome8687 · 2026-03-07T03:55:24+00:00

So sorry to hear about your childhood. You deserved better, brother.

You've obviously done a bit of homework on the matter of trauma. I could be wrong but I suspect that more insight into the origins and effects of unmet childhood needs shouldn't be your number one priority. I'd do two things:

1 - Get the basics right. Sleep is the most important facet of health. Make sure you're getting enough quality and quantity. Then also make sure your diet, exercise and social life are in order.

2 - Therapy - if you can afford it, get a therapist. But shop around. Don't settle for any therapist. You need one that's worth their salt and is trauma informed. Me? I'd simply ask if the therapist/counselor/psychiatrist has ever heard of Gabor Mate (doctor and trauma expert). No? Onto the next one. Prescription medications should also be considered.

Good luck my man!

iamnotsure69420 · 2026-03-07T03:57:17+00:00

Honestly bro, if this is pretty deep inside you then I strongly recommend talking to a therapist. If you can’t afford a private one, there are usually some places that offer free therapy as practice for master’s students. They’ll have a senior therapist who will oversee them.

Trying to heal trauma by yourself, especially trauma rooted in childhood is very hard, and really should be guided/supported with a therapist.

I hope you find the help you need. You deserve it.

onesectoolate · 2026-03-07T13:49:52+00:00

There is an excellent book called "The Body Keeps the Score". It could hit the nail on the head for your type of trauma.

If it does, physical activities such as running, dancing, swimming, etc. can help you regulate your trauma and reconnect you to your own body and self.

Might be a good place to start.

Therapy along with personal reflection is ideal. Start where you can with understanding yourself.

TopCare2720 · 2026-03-07T03:35:26+00:00

Running rewires the brain by causing problematic neurons to disconnect.

Back2theCouture · 2026-03-07T04:00:06+00:00

Above redditors’ paygrade, I guess. I could only say that you need to seek professional help.

professionalfumblr · 2026-03-07T07:42:34+00:00

I’m having a similar but different issue. I’ll meet a woman and things are actually going really good (like..as good as it could be), but then I stop. I tell myself it’s because I’m here with my boys but it’s something else, just don’t know what. I’m not content with life rn it could have something to do with that, but idk. Wish I knew, I’ve been passing up good shit

Kylearean · 2026-03-07T14:53:50+00:00

Read as much as you can about inner game. Getting your internal mindset right is the very first priority.

FlowingMagic · 2026-03-11T15:46:50+00:00

i think youre smart and on the money

actually takes a lot of awareness and understanding for someone to say what you just said

to heal this well, long term closeness w friendly, enthusiastic, caring, loving, fun people

Title	How to heal trauma around shame of expressing your sexuality
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Date	March 7, 2026 3:25 AM UTC (4 months ago)
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