Hello all,

I’ve been a lurker in this sub for a bit now, but I could use some advice. I am not currently a man going through divorce, I 32M have been with my wife 31F for 16 years (high school sweethearts). I just don’t know what to do at this point. I know that as time goes by and you have kids that sex tends to diminish. But as someone with a relatively average sex drive idk how to approach my wife as our sex life has been a semi-frequent topic of discussion. I have made it well known in our relationship that our sex life is not enough for me. We had sex a total of ten times last year and this year is very clearly going to be similar if not worse. I don’t prod at her, I don’t ask, I initiate zero physical contact at this point because of her repeated complaints that I “only seem to want sex”. I just want contact. If I’m not the one to reach out and hold her hand or whatever then it just doesn’t happen. Is there some way that I can learn to cope or is my marriage too far gone. Any advice, even harsh, is accepted. Knock some sense into me if that is what you think I need.