Days without the kid hit different

jarnock · 2026-03-16T17:09:26+00:00

Mandatory post here - get some hobbies to fill time, golf, bowling, pickle ball, run club…soon you’ll enjoy making some new friends and start to build a new life.

Ok-Cause1108 · 2026-03-15T23:22:18+00:00

Bad idea to stay in the marital home. It will wreck your mental health.

Move out tomorrow and get yourself a dog.

Inevitable_Stock4777 · 2026-03-15T21:01:46+00:00

I can relate to this 1000%! Sucks we are going through this!

BuilderOk8069 · 2026-03-15T12:10:09+00:00

Everyone says gym, hobbies, self work and it’s all true. The piece I don’t hear much is gratitude. During your times alone focus on how grateful you are to have a kid you miss, how grateful you are to be awake and healthy enough to miss her, and… yes… (if it applies)how grateful you are that she has another parent who is loving and safe enough to care for her when she’s not with you. Embrace missing her (and her mom if it applies) without lamenting. If you were in a marriage that would never work your kid was missing out on the presence of both of you. Each of you was consumed at some or many points by the darkness of the marriage you left and if she hadn’t already, she would come to feel and internalize that. This is all hard, divorce sucks just as much as a bad marriage sucks, but the difference is divorce can promote growth on all fronts whereas the marriage could not. I know all of this first hand because I experienced it with my much older son, and I can empathize because I’m about to experience it again with the younger.

NanooNanooBot · 2026-03-15T08:49:23+00:00

I hear you. I'm grieving still for the family I am raising being broken probably more than the relationship. I watched a new Netflix movie 'In Your Dreams' with the kids last night. Unexpectedly, it had a subplot of a declining relationship between the Mum and Dad.y 12 year old daughter shed some tears. It was actually really nice to share that as a bonding experience with her.

serkovavantgarden · 2026-03-15T06:09:33+00:00

You’ve yet to move on, you’re still hurting

That day will come

And when it does, you’ll appreciate ‘me time’

Title	Days without the kid hit different
Author	P5YCH0D3
Upvotes	27
Comments	11
Date	March 15, 2026 5:53 AM UTC (4 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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