Sup dudes, so I've been doing cold approach for a couple years, and so far it's been pretty good. I am not into anything serious at the moment (for reasons I don't wanna get into in this post), so for me it's just about sex. I did get some lays, but I feel like these are pretty much luck.

Because most of the time I get stuck at the same point: whenever I want to take things further, girls want to slow it down. Like waaaaayyy down. First I thought I just need to upgrade my looks, go the gym etc. (which I'm doing), but then I started thinking it's not really that. Because these girls actually wanna keep seeing me, they just won't kiss until the 3rd date or whatever. This last girl I went out with (Georgian girl) even said when I tried to kiss her: "WHAT?? Kissing on the FIRST DATE??? That NOT NORMAL!" I kinda had to laugh, asked why not, got some gibberish about needing to know someone super well first before doing anything.

I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong. But I have 3 theories:

  1. I'm choosing the wrong girls to approach. Now, I don't approach girls in obvious religeous conservative clothing, but a lot of girls are very conservative about sex while dressing completely modern and normal. I don't really screen for that in my first approach, and wouldn't know how to exactly. Maybe the girls I'm going for are too old? Like, late 20s. Maybe I'd have more like with girls in their early 20s? No idea, just riffing here.

  2. These girls are actually not super conservative, but they somehow put me in the "serious" category because of how I act. Again, I'm not sure how that is, or what I need to change.

  3. I just need to "get good". Altough, I don't think this is a "I have a boyfriend" situation, just with "I don't put out on the first date" (I believe these girls are genuine), for Timothee Chalamet they probably would put out in a heartbeat. But there seem to be a lot of guides on pickup lines, what to do when exactly, but my problem is the last step, how to get physical without these conservative barriers getting in the way.

If anyone has ideas, I'd be very interested. Cheers!