Any good cold openers for sharing?

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-04-09T19:47:53+00:00

best way to cold approach is to first clear you rmind and focus on just having a fun conversation, not trying to lead it to something. Understand that you might strike out and even the best do but a lot of times it has little to do with you and more that woman's comfort level around strangers. UNderstand this, people in general are nervous to talk to strangers, it's drilled in our mind from a young age that strangers are dangerous and that never really goes away, especially for women.

So for you, dont go in thinkin g"how can i get her number?" go in thinking "she seems fun let me see if she is fun and if she doesnt like me than that's her loss".

As for opener, usually i find that complementing appearance (not looks, just appearance) works well especially if it's something obvious and unique to her. Clothing is amn extension of personality. So if she's wearing a sundress id say "hey i really like that dress where'd you even find something liek that?"

If she has a shirt of a rock band, saw "hey i really like that shirt, what band is that?". Understand first 30 or so seconds will be awkward (sometimes more than that) but try to find middle ground. Every one has something they can talk about for hours. I try to find that common ground. For me it's sports, get me to talk about sports i can talk for hours. So it's easy with someone people. If i ask a woman where she's from and she says chicago i go, "north side or southside" if she says "southside" i might so "white sox fan?" if she says yes then i t say "oooh im sorry about that".

abcsofattraction · 2026-04-09T19:59:10+00:00

For nightlife specifically, nothing beats the Kickstarter Cheers opener and I’ve been teaching cold approach for 20 years.

Make eye contact, smile, raise your glass to mid-chest, say “Cheers.” She cheers back on social autopilot because etiquette basically requires it. You introduce yourself, short exchange, easy exit.

That’s the whole opener.

Here’s why it’s better than anything situational or clever: it’s a calibration tool. If fewer than 50% of women cheer back, your problem isn’t the opener. It’s your body language, your energy, or your positioning in the room. You’ve just diagnosed the actual issue without burning a single line.

If they do cheer back, you’ve already created zero pressure on either side. From there you can go direct (“I had to come meet you”), situational (“you look like you’re celebrating something”), or just introduce yourself and see where it goes. The opener got the door open. Now you improvise.

The other thing it does is kill approach anxiety through sheer volume. One word, ten sets a night, no attachment to outcome. Your nervous system learns fast that this isn’t life or death, and the hesitation starts to dissolve.

Full breakdown on the opener and the science behind why it works.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-04-09T17:32:02+00:00

My best advice is to have an opener that has the close built-in.

ABC - Always Be Closing.

Example:

You: "Do you know a good place to get coffee around here?" (opener)

Your target: "There's Starbucks around the corner" (of course you already knew that)

You: "Awesome, I'm about to meet a friend later (false time constraint), but want to join me for a coffee in the meantime?" (close)

epimpstyle · 2026-04-09T18:40:54+00:00

In bus stations or in the park, when I see a lady sitting on a bench, I tell her: "I wonder if the paint is dry yet? A guy was painting it about an hour ago." It’s obviously a joke, and you will get a reaction. The moment you get that reaction, you already have something to comment on...

Sorry-Place6291 · 2026-04-09T18:29:24+00:00

Something a little retarded that she thinks would be cute

Pickledsundae · 2026-04-10T14:14:13+00:00

A simple yet surprisingly effective one I got two numbers at a local bar last Friday was "excuse me, are you single?"

If they say yes and/or why do you ask, you can then follow up with something like "well then, I ask because you caught my eye and I just had to come over and say hi. I'm "name' by the way"

Totally singles out the singles and saying they caught your eye isn't an over the top compliment. Just be sure to ask it with gusto; if you're feeling a bit nervous, I guess you could add something self aware like "i don't normally do/ask this" or "I know this is random " before asking

Ok-Orange7146 · 2026-04-09T17:56:53+00:00

Honestly, it doesn’t matter. If a woman is into you, she’s just happy that you’re talking to her. Find what is comfortable for you to say and something you can say 100 of times easily.

I mostly go out to bars and clubs so I say “excuse me, whats your name”

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