When did you stop therapy?

Relative-Cicada1553 · 2026-05-06T16:17:47+00:00

My therapist introduced me to schema therapy. It's a spin off of cognitive behavior therapy. It's all technique. So once I had the technique... well, I didn't see much reason to continue. So about 6 months.

Plus I could see the reflection of him surfing the internet in his glasses in Zoom calls.

The_Restructured_Man · 2026-05-06T01:18:59+00:00

Sounds like therapy did exactly what it was supposed to do… and now you've hit calm waters and the sessions feel like hypothesizing about a future that hasn't happened yet. That's usually the signal that the diagnostic phase is done, which is great!

I didn't lean heavily on therapy… it wasn't the thing that moved the needle for me. What I found was I didn’t need more conversation about the past, I needed a system for building the future.

Therapy looks backward to understand how you got here… Infrastructure looks forward and gives you an operating rhythm for where you're going… daily structure, weekly review, clear targets across every area of your life, accountability to something concrete.

The calm waters you're describing aren't a problem to solve. They're the starting line. The question isn't whether to stop therapy (sounds like you already know that answer). The question is what you build on the foundation it gave you.

Most guys stop therapy and just... drift. The ones who come out the other side in good shape are the ones who replace it with something deliberate.

TeddyPSmith · 2026-05-05T23:01:12+00:00

I was ready to start tapering off of therapy on my way to see her today. Out of the blue she hit me with some childhood shit that made me glad I went.

This therapist is different from those I’ve seen in the past. She’s hardly interested in the current state of affairs. She wants to get to the reason I abandoned myself in this relationship so it doesn’t happen again. I can appreciate that. I’m willing to see where this goes.

soupsandwich00 · 2026-05-05T19:03:52+00:00

I'm currently going weekly, but its getting to the point where sometimes I dont have much to talk about. I'm still healing but the storm of heartbreak has mostly passed. I'd like to keep going so I was thinking of dropping it down to once a month.

SilentlySad · 2026-05-05T09:44:50+00:00

I hate therapy. I’ve had great luck with Board certified psychologists. In my case I had childhood trauma and paid for a full psychological evaluation. I needed to know what was wrong with me. I had a worries I was a narcissist or sociopath (history in my family)

Came out not so bad…acute ADHD, little OCD, and PTSD (former career)

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2026-05-05T08:03:04+00:00

Therapy like in the US does not exist where I live, we have free healthcare and you can go to a psychiatrist for meds, and since he had cleared me as completely sane just in acute stress, I only went 4-5 times during the hardest parts (cheating, my anger outburst towards the AP, divorce).

Very Soviet style approach to mental health - you suffer? Good, that means you are alive.

There are only a few CBT psychologists in the whole country, none in my town and the price for 45 mins is what a regular person earns for a day. Still considering going for the kids that I still miss a lot and sometimes feel an inadequate father due to time/financial constraints. My ex is also a malignant narc and I've been abused for the last 3 years, at least. But can't find the time to travel as I am self employed and have very little free time, so coping by hanging out with friends, going out, new hobbies, working out at home.

anon4hlp · 2026-05-05T06:44:03+00:00

I did regular therapy for a few months after separation and then I just kept the contact as needed. The idea was that once I got my confidence back, I didn't need it as a constant help. Instead I can set up an appointment whenever something especially rough comes up. That has proven to work well for me.

TimeCycle3000 · 2026-05-05T06:29:56+00:00

I’ve stopped therapy multiple times over the years, when it felt right.

I’m back in it cause I’m getting divorced. At some point I’ll feel good and will end therapy once more.

Title	When did you stop therapy?
Author	LaCathedrale
Upvotes	3
Comments	10
Date	May 5, 2026 6:19 AM UTC (3 months ago)
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