The missing men of the American marriage market

On_the_Cliff · 2026-05-20T02:27:23+00:00

From the article:

The economists find that college-educated women are, on average, hitching up with this top-earning tier of non-college-educated men.

Of course.

Further:

"And what's left is a pool of non-college-educated men who are really struggling," Chambers says. "And that makes up the market of available men for non-college-educated women, which we think might be why they've seen such steep declines in marriage rates over this period."

So: Non-college-educated women see non-college-educated men as unsuitable for marriage. Do I understand that right?

Unsurprisingly, the word "hypergamy" appears nowhere in the article; it's really not NPR's style.

1uno124 · 2026-05-19T23:46:45+00:00

Alienate men, shocked men don't want to opt into legal mechanism that screws them

63daddy · 2026-05-19T23:43:15+00:00

This article accurately mentions more women now going to college, but like so many articles, videos and podcasts fails to mention the discrimination responsible for this change. It fails to mention that when fewer women why to college, it didn’t create a marriage problem, so why is it a problem when fewer men go to college? ( they neglect to mention the relevant impact of hypergamy).

College men who ask women out risk being accused of harassment, same with men in many workplace environments. Of course they are more hesitant to ask women out. Young men are much more aware of what they stand to lose in marriage and divorce, of course this makes them more cautious to marry. Many men look at women’s high expectations and decided not to play a biased game.

The biases against men and boys that impact education and marriage are well documented, it’s just that articles such as this and “advocates” such as Reeves don’t want acknowledge the discrimination. It’s unlikely there will be any meaningful change until people start acknowledging the discrimination that is the root cause.

Alternative-Tax7318 · 2026-05-20T00:53:11+00:00

Much of the conversation has focused on working-class men themselves, and how that has been reflected in their own social struggles. This paper shifts attention to how those struggles may be affecting women and kids.

When NPR? When has the conversation EVER focused around men and not women & children?

The paper starts off talking about “a large amount of the male population eradicated by ww2” then frames single mothers as the biggest tragedy. It cites statistics of men falling into drug abuse, prison, or homelessness, then really goes ‘but what about the college educated women? :(‘

For any feminist lurkers…. This is why men have started rejecting your dogshit movement.

thriverebel · 2026-05-19T23:01:33+00:00

I can't even read this garbage.

KangarooCrapper · 2026-05-19T23:10:45+00:00

Sure is a head scratcher...

Randomuser223556 · 2026-05-20T04:27:01+00:00

Just another: 1 million men dead in war, women most impacted.

KarateInAPool · 2026-05-19T23:30:02+00:00

NPR is dog shit misanthropic hate speech

organicchemistry1119 · 2026-05-20T06:48:11+00:00

Women not finding any man that meets their needs is like employers complaining that nobody wants to work. That is, they're ignoring a bunch of individuals because of their unreasonable, hyper-inflated standards.

reikert45 · 2026-05-20T00:10:03+00:00

And it’s for reasons like this that I’m glad I’m gay. What a miserable game this must be. I’d sooner be single than play this game.

IAmMadeOfNope · 2026-05-19T23:38:07+00:00

Archive link for those who don't want to give npr traffic: https://archive.is/oHopo

Future-Stretch-401 · 2026-05-20T03:32:30+00:00

Somehow they manage to observe the real problem but then ignore it. Let’s look at the real math.

Suppose every 30yo woman with a college degree and making at least 50k per year wanted to marry a 30 yo man with at least the same education level and income. Are there enough men? Yes, those numbers are about 30% of all men and women despite less men attending college. And since the men earn more on average all the women could theoretically at least have an educated and higher earning husband.

But 37% of women with a college degree are earning less than 50k per year at age 30 (mostly because their degrees have zero economic value). Could they choose to marry either a 30 yo man with a college degree or a man who doesn’t have a degree but does make 50k+. Yes, a little more than half of all 30yo men without degrees make 50k+. So there’s plenty of men for all the low quality college women to get a husband who either has a degree and makes as much as they do, or makes substantially more than they do.

You get the idea now. Women without degrees, making 50k+ a year at age 30. Are there enough men left for them to choose a man who also makes 50k+ a year? Yes, even if low earning college women have taken some of them there are plenty left for the high earning non-college women. The proportion of non-college men making that much is about 50% higher than non-college women.

So there we are, any woman who wants a man with income, and/or the social status of a degree has available to her a sufficient number of qualified men. There are no “missing men”, only women who have made themselves so unpleasant that men, the less selective sex, that would be pretty happy just to have a partner that was loyal and gave them regular sex, don’t want to commit.

- they have poor mental health and are anxious all the time

- they lose interest in sex

- they seem to just not like men

- politically they are far to the left of most men and unlike men can’t tolerate this difference

- they have a hair-trigger for any male behavior they don’t like

- and will viciously extract every possible penny in a divorce

Da_Famous_Anus · 2026-05-19T23:21:03+00:00

wtf?

Robot_Alchemist · 2026-05-20T05:36:05+00:00

First of all, technically no degree has any economic value - except to the dept of education

B1G_Fan · 2026-05-20T19:50:02+00:00

“However, the economic and educational trajectories of men and women have increasingly diverged, with a large swath of men falling behind.”

It’s easy for women to get ahead the game is rigged in their favor. When women can vote to collect taxes on men to pay for mandated quotas, affirmative action, and DEI lectures all while majoring in worthless degrees and getting BS jobs, yeah the landscape is pretty unfair.

EDIT: Incentives matter, ladies. When women are sleeping around in their teens and twenties, it’s not terribly surprising that boys never grow up because they never had the incentive to put down the porn, weed, and video games long enough to get their finances, career, education, physique, and health in order…

Wonderful_System5658 · 2026-05-20T11:09:07+00:00

Every woman posting on social media a man hating, man shaming, or womansplaining video on what men are supposed to be (for them), results in hundreds or thousands of good men saying 'No thanks, not worth the trouble.' I deal with drama at work. When I come home, I want peace, compliance, and sex. I can get everything else on my own.

ronstoppable7 · 2026-05-22T06:29:05+00:00

I am on gf #4 now.

She makes 800k+ a year (influencer).

This is not a "steak too juicy, lobster too buttery" post.

The girl is very beautiful, but I am not as attracted to her for reasons I cannot explain (probably not my type? Idk). Of my 4 gfs, she is the one I am least in the mood to sleep with.

One of the main reasons I'm locking in with her is because I wont find another girl who isn't demanding, delusional, or makes that much money. Yes, how much she makes is a factor not because I want money but because the handful of women I went on dates with before her were ALL broke, delusional, entitled college educated women.

I make 100-120k a year which is decent for me. These girls be making 50-70k turning their nose up at my salary.

This is why I'm locking in with rich girl.

Title	The missing men of the American marriage market
Author	76willcommenceagain
Upvotes	164
Comments	25
Date	May 19, 2026 10:49 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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