The title says it all, but to elaborate further, I'm reminded of an incident from back when I was a chump.

I have the flu right now and just like then, I had the flu. So what do I do when I have the flu? I tell a woman I'm planning to have sex with, I have the flu is that okay? She says yes as usual and I set up the date. Now I go to this woman's house with my flu and after leaving, she goes quiet and ghosts me. What went wrong? The over thinker that I was, I could not purposely infect her, so I did not fuck her. I was concerned, a gentleman, a sweetheart, a smooth talker on his third date and everything, but performance night, I didn't deliver so she ghosted me. But if it were me today, I'd fuck her brains out and we'd be a regular thing until I was bored with her. Point is, I'm not a bad boy today and it wasn't that I wasn't a bad boy. It's that I wasn't really a man. I didn't lay pipe. I didn't fulfill my momentary role so she tossed me aside.

If you don't do your job, she'll find someone who can. So if you're looking to get the job, show up and show out. I talk to quite a few dudes, I realize a lot of us don't get this (I didn't) so I'm passing on the wisdom.