Good Evening Gents,

Have any of you drafted a parenting plan and shared it with your partner, only to receive feedback that they are rejecting it in its entirety, only to find that they send a revised version with many of the same provisions you put in yours?

I sent my STBX a parenting plan draft which she rejected in its entirety. There were some stupid little things that she didn't agree with. They were non-issues for me, so I removed them in a later version. She wrote up a new one and sent it to me. I reviewed it and compared it to mine. Most of it was virtually identical. We both used the CustodyxChange platform to draft the plan. I started it after she served me and only sent it to her about a week or so ago (I was served in May).

I didn't send the schedule piece because it would have caused conflict. She later said that I didn't send a schedule and didn't consider the schedule as part of the parent plan because of ... (the dot dot dot is a rant that she gave and is outside the scope of what I am trying to convey and ask).

I outputted my draft into MSWord, enabled track changes, then overlayed her pieces where they didn't match. I added comments where appropriate to indicate whether I agreed, disagreed, or wanted something changed. I made the changes in the text and added the original in the comments. This way she can approve changes that she is OK with, and we can discuss ones that she is not OK with.

Have any of you in moderate or high-conflict divorce situations done something like this? How did it turn out? Were you able to come to some kind of agreement? More importantly, for those that did something like this a while back, was it something that you both held to?

What are your thoughts?