I (28m) have a lifelong friend who's always been good with women, ever since early teens. I've tried to copy what he does, but seems impossible.

I love the guy, but he's objectively the most unremarkable man you'll ever meet, he's always without a job, drinks a lot and snorts coke like it's his full time job. Also, he's completely avarage looking in every sense of the word. Although, I must admit that his confident and "couldn't give a shit attitude" is pretty good.

These days, I only see him once or twice a month, but every single time without fail, he'll receive a text from some gorgeous women he's currently talking to, asking him to meet up.

I remember laughing once because he complained about being in a dry spell for two months, like that was some kind of sick, twisted joke lol.

He's had one girlfriend in his life (17-22), broke up and then started fucking a different women once or twice and then ghosting her for the next.

What I find the most confusing is that I never see him speak to women while out. I've seen his Tinder and he doesn't receive matches (average looking will do that). My best guess is that the women either message him first out of the blue (unlikely to be honest), or he randomly throws enough shit at the wall and hopes some of it sticks.

Are some men just naturally born with it, while others can't learn no matter what they do? Because I'm certainly starting to believe that.

It's like playing a sport, thinking you're pretty good and then getting schooled by a guy who's leagues ahead of you. Some men are just built different.